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4.4 : Lessons learned from years of celibacy
In 4.4 Lessons from Years of Celibacy, Candalada shares the journey of celibacy in her thirties. The book has four storylines and follows her son, Mom, Grandmother, and herself. It includes raw excerpts from her diary, sexual fantasies, coping with grief, and raising her son—organized chaos at its finest.
4.4 Lessons from Years of Celibacy unfolds chronologically, marked by Septembers that commemorate the anniversary of her mother's loss. Throughout her grief journey, she experiences the ebb and flow of motherhood and healing. Her dating life oscillates between nonexistent and ill-advised encounters.At the four-year, four-month mark, Candalada feels confident enough to lower her guard with an incompatible man, which leads to a significant regression in her growth. She realizes that her self-imposed isolation has left her unprepared for the scrutiny of men who exploit vulnerabilities. Facing this mental setback, Candalada seeks help beyond traditional talk therapy. She assembles a custom healing team to rebuild an intuitive version of herself unburdened by past experiences. The book offers a transparent account of this process, detailing how addressing her inner child ultimately makes her a more emotionally healthy adult.
Each chapter reveals a powerful narrative of triumph; Candalada’s resilience and perseverance will inspire readers universally.
Beautiful RejeCts: COGNiTIVE DIStortions Coloring Book
In Beautiful Reject, The Coloring Book of Cognitive Distortions, Candalada shares her interpretation of 11 cognitive distortions. Illustrated by Zaria Poynter, the book is an artful display or distortions at play during the 21st century. The book an expansion of thought related to page 72 of her first book, which highlighted the importance of being able to identify cognitive distortions and the danger of this exaggerated or minimalized pattern of thought.
The purpose of this book is to help adults combat stress and anxiety while learning how to identify distortions.
Commonly seen in people with depression cognitive distortion are referred to as the "hallmark of depression". Reducing the frequency of using them is integral part of overcoming depression.
BeauTIFUL Reject: Seven years of Delusional Dating
In Beautiful Reject, Candalada shares the life-changing message that saving yourself — rather than waiting for prince charming — can be the foundation required to maintain sanity in the volatile, modern-day dating environment. The book is filled with candid accounts from seven years of delusional dating, along with practical advice on how to recover from failed relationships.
Beautiful Reject offers a specific ten-step guide for women to overcome the darkness of rejection. She battled depression for years until she discovered the path to recovery. Her expressive transient recall of toxic relationships, breakthroughs in therapy, and recovery will inspire the broken and inform the unaware.