2023 May Newsletter

May We Talk About March: A Quest to Heal

The Newsletter is special. I have been delivering news on topics beyond hair care since 2014. Every once in a while reflecting can help me see that an experience that seems random is a part of a larger pattern. Before I get to the big reveal of what I did this past March lets take a brief look at the past. The Hair Therapy Newsletter history.

November 3rd, 2014 - Hair Therapy blog made its Debut  covering a cancer fundraiser

December 2014 - International Beauty in Northern Virginia

August 2015 to September 2015 - 9 entries covering cross country travel between VA-CA. The momentum kept steady with multiple entries per month until April 1st, 2016.

April 1st, 2016 - The April entry titled “The News” detailed Hair Therapy’s recently closed store front was being passed on to Ashley Bunton, my trusted and personal hair dresser.

November 3rd 2017 - The first official Newsletter was created (stories the first RAE, NikkRich Exhibit, Professor Hopkinson). The streamlined monthly display of various stories ran from 2017-2019

June, July, August 2019 - no entry

March 2020 - no entry

June, July 2022 - no entry

March 2023 - no entry

After looking at the timeline I noticed I am gone with the wind on some summer months and this is my second missed March. Perhaps it is time to consider taking breaks in these months or looking into what happened in my life at these times. I can’t remember what happened in March 2020, however, I can remember exactly what I was doing this past March.

CrUSHed and Unstable

Towards the end of January 2023 I had personal experience that was a bit painful. On February 6th, 2023 I had my first therapy recommended mental health day off. Everything surrounding Valentine’s Day was miserably annoying. In February I went to visit my trusted yoga specialist, OneWithEbony for a Thai Massage and Body Work.

Thai massages are good when you are in an emotional state and want to release the feelings. I have had three done since I lost my mom. Ebony conducted my mothers’ restorative yoga session when she was ill. I am very comfortable with her and feel connected to my mom when I receive her services.

After the message I felt ok for all of three days and then I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders again. I knew something was wrong because her magical touch usually floats me for a while. I needed to go deeper.

One With Ebony Trainings: 500RYT / Bodywork Therapy / Wellness Life Coach / Tantra / Meditation / Reiki Level I & II / Spiritual Life Guidance

On March 1st my therapist recommended Reiki with Dahlia. This was my introduction to Dahlia Rose who’s company name is Crystal Cognizance.

Through our initial phone conversation Dahlia determined 3 sessions, 2 weeks apart to address my past, my present and future would be the most impactful. It would be a bit of a commitment and she encouraged me to think about it and scale down if I prefer. I decided on the three sessions.

When I opened the door, I froze a little. I was in all black and she was in white. I felt like I was looking into my own eyes. Dahlia’s presence was calming and I had the sense there was no point in being dishonest about anything because she knew many things. My first session was scheduled to be 1.5 hours and ran 3 hours. I had no sense of time in while in the session.

In effort to not spoil the experience of what the session entails. I won’t recap every detail. This experience was the most personal to me of the three healers I worked with in March. I made the most mental progress here. Daliah offered a great deal of support through, text, voice conversations and in person sessions.

My first session required a lot of participation. Reading, dancing, talking, breathing, stretching, meditating, crying, drooling, coughing; it was intense. I slept for hours after. I was left with home work. I was given enough journal prompts for 2 weeks.

Modalities applied: Reiki, Pranashakthi, Sound healing, crystal healing, plant healing, energy body-field-channel recalibration, Akashic records healing, Ancestor healing.

By my second session the hole in my chest started to close. I was practicing mindfulness. I had prepared responses for things that bothered me. I felt myself regaining a perspective that involved accountably and confidence. This was time where I probably should have doubled down but I was feeling really good and went off track.

The last session well …..I MISSED IT! I missed it hanging out with the very person that pushed me to Daliah in the first place, only to be in tears the very next day.

It was through this experience that I learned it is NEVER a good idea to jeopardize your healing. Anything or anyone that is for you will be there after your session. There can be no bending or negotiating with yourself about this.

When I shamefully cancelled my session just hours prior before the start time she said, it is okay if you are not ready. You said you have a headache, think about that. Transference of energy can cause headaches also, your body is reacting to something. Lastly, when you are sick you must rest. I know feel like you are the same person but I assure you that you are not.

What I enjoyed the most about this experience was the write ups. I was given pages of information about myself. Long detailed readings and insights to what came to Dahlia during my sessions. The most memorable are the ages of my past self. The ages that she recalled are ages that significantly impacted my life. This is process of soul restoration that happens in the deepest levels of meditation.

I now have a different meaning for what it means to feel whole and I doubt I will ever use the phrase this is my other half after this experience.

I learned things about myself and my son. I connected with my brother who showed up at my door during both sessions unannounced and unplanned. Something about taking yourself seriously emits to others. They come to you and just want to be near you and when they do, you don’t mind. Connecting with my brother was an unexpected positive experience for me.

What scared me the most about this experience is I could see the habits and people that I would need to leave behind. I could see this new place I was building that some could not enter. Instead of continuing to build, I froze, I really wanted to take everyone with me. It has brought me no joy to stand still and I know I will have to go back and finish building soon.

Dalia Rose

Transcendental Counselor 
Priestess in The Order of Melchizedek 
Crystal Intuitive and Specialist
Multiple Certified Reiki Master/Teacher
Pranashakthi Master/Teacher
Soul Realignment Practitioner

703-772-4435 (cell)

RITA 3.24.23

I learned of Rita from the woman who does my henna. She has the most soothing voice. As she created art on my chest I thought to myself, I love the way she speaks to her children. I asked her how she stays centered. She disclosed that she was not always at peace and had to look deep within herself for quite sometime but it was worth the work. She did shadow work with Rita and has been feeling better ever since.

I reached out to Rita and it took some time for her to get back to me. She did a reading for me while I was in California. I was so skeptical about what a person can tell me from a distance. My pencil was smoking. She started with a prayer and after that she spoke for about 15 minutes straight.

I was truly taken back. She immediately spoke about my mother her hardships as a child and my explosive mothering. There was some insight about paths I have abandoned in my past that need to be revisited. A recommendation to break attachments to Issa that can lead to co dependency. She spoke about my purpose here on earth.

There was nothing positive for love for now. No one in my life currently is for me. That hurt to hear. I didn’t even want to believe that. Love was coming after more self work.

What enjoyed about this reading was the level of detail and not having to disclose much information. I had some answers to questions that I had given up on even asking. Some things about me make more sense I do not feel odd about what makes me different from others anymore.

There was homework issued at the end of the session that I have yet to complete. The purpose of it to help me with grounding. As I operate in a spiritual way that really doesn’t work for where I am, earth lol.

This home work should help me with drifting. Some may describe it as auto pilot. I think drifting is worse because you will end up 3 exits past your house with no recollection of what happened the past 15 mins. This was happening often in March and a major red flag that I need to align my consciousness.

TALK 2 TASH 3.29.23

I learned of Talk 2 Tash from the radio. I have been listening to her for years. Tash was the last person that I spoke to. You can ask Tash 4-6 questions. I must say this was the absolute hardest thing for me. Figuring out my questions. Then when I spoke to her she immediately addressed a few things only leaving me with two questions and a blank mind. I can’t believe I didn’t have about 100 questions ready to go.

• She spoke about self love or my lack of it right after the prayer. I was sick of hearing about self love at this point.

• My old interest lingered on IG being nosey and the new person in my life has no interest in settling and has been playing games with women for years.

• My son was going to push past some educational challenges and will need a soccer and a mentor to make it through next year.

• My love with be found through my work with Hair Therapy

The homework here ironically was to go outside. I do almost everything virtually. The other was to continue to cultivate Hair Therapy not to let it slip away.

The accumulation of homework, the triple layered self care messages and the aint no love happening until I do what seems like an infinite laundry list of self work had me annoyed. I actually had a bit of tears after this call.

CONCLUSION

There was no conflicting information between thee three healers. I put all the information together form a clear big picture.

I was a little disappointed that I didn’t finish with Dahliah. I saved my journal prompts and I have been working at my own pace. Answering those tough questions that shape my perspective of myself and relationships with others.

There was an exercise we did once and my legs didn’t move much at she said it was symbolic of being stuck. While I do not feel stuck I am not sprinting how I hoped but it is better than no movement at all.

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April 2023 Newsletter Vol 2

ITALY, SWITZERLAND, France everything you need to know : From planning to execution

The purpose of this detailed newsletter is to help anyone in the mist of planning a trip. It is more robust than highlighting food and sharing pics. Topics include:

1. Trip Background

2. Ticket Details

3. Hotel Research

4. Overall Routing

5. City Planning

6. How Prince Issa and I Escaped a Possible Abduction

7. Lessons Learned

8. Good To Know

9. How Driving a Tesla Affect The Trip

10. Food

11. Hotels

12. The Spa : QC Treme Milano

13. Picture Story

Trip Idea Background:

After reading several articles comparing Venice, Italy and Paris, France. I still could not choose between the two locations. I decided to go with Italy. Mainly because Issa has been talking about it for at least three years compared to France, which he just mentioned to me this year. Once I decided on Italy I had some nagging thoughts. When we will make it back to see France? Wouldn’t a surprise trip in a surprise trip be the ultimate surprise? I set out to see if a two for one was feasible.

Dulles International Airport

Ticket Details:

The total flight time to Venice was 10 hours, on the way back the layover was a bit obnoxious; 8 hours in Istanbul Airport. Istanbul Airport is the largest airport in the world and it has hotel inside of it called the Yotel on the landslide. I would love to tell you about it but I slept in a chair.

Istanbul Airport

The tickets to Italy were purchased on March 14th and cost $1401.20 total, $559.32 for mine and $552.85 for Issa’s. I chose Turkish Airways because the baggage allowance is a carry on, a personal item and 2 suitcases up to 23 kg each. The baggage allowance was more gracious than any other airline. You must go online to make special request for vegan or kosher meals. It seems no matter how swift the flight they, feed you a meal.

Initial Hotel Research:

Most hotels were $124 - $220 a night with the exception of Paris around $300 a night. Next, I began to plan routing.

Overall Routing:

The plan was to fly in to Venice arrive at 1:30PM, spend one night, at midday take the bullet train to Milan (3hr ride), spend a night , take the bullet train to Paris (4hr ride) spend two nights.

For the route back, take the train to Geneva, Switzerland (a small piece of Switzerland wedged between Italy and France; a common train change stop on rides back to Italy) spend one night. Then finally from Geneva, Switzerland back to Venice for two nights, to really relish in the canal vibes before leaving.

City exploration planning based on vegan food and places of interest:

I spent a few days on blogs and happy cow and made a list of the food places that looked most appealing. I selected hotels based on their proximity to food or places of interest.

Venice planning was complex to navigate with many water routes. I was unsure of how to make it to certain places until I arrived and was given additional assistance. Coming in I stayed somewhere easy to access from the airport by bus in Dorsoduro. At the end of the trip I made extra effort to stay deeper in Venice in San Marco to visit the shops.

PLAnning vs reality

Milano Centrale

*Venice Actual 4/11/22 11am-5PM headed to airport although booked through the 12th.

1. The first room I booked I entered the wrong check in date. I placed the date we started flying instead of the day after when we actually arrived. It was non refundable, even though I called one second later and told them it was a mistake no refund was issued. That is Travelocity for you.

2. We got stuck in Milan and extra night on the way to Paris. I was unable to get catch a train to France due a planned train strike I did not know about. I purchased a flight to Paris that morning and it was cancelled later that evening. It took a total of 30 days to get a refund. This cancellation caused a delay and domino affect for the rest of trip. I missed some reservations completely and I was a day late for 2 day reservations. With limited options for leaving Milan, I rented a car from SIXTY and drove to Paris. I left around 3:30PM and arrived at 3 AM. The travel time was 12hrs (charging increased travel time).

3. After day two of the trip I was booking new reservations while missing out on the reservations I already paid for elsewhere. This was a complete waste of any savings and blew the budget planned for the trip. I had no travel insurance on the rooms and missed all the cancellation periods. No refunds were issued to me. Both Hotel Hoy and Hotel Bernina offered gracious special rates for the unplanned extension.

4. On the voyage back we got at suck in Milan again because trains don’t run late night on Easter Monday and we missed the last train out at 8:25pm. We spent a completely unplanned night in Milan. This was the most disastrous night of the trip.

HOw PRINCE ISSA AND I ESCAPED DANGER AND POSSIBLE ABDUCTION

The unplanned night in Milan was the night I experienced the most stress on the trip. Driving back from France seemed take forever. We did a lot of day driving. I almost always drive at night but I wanted to see the fountain catch the shops Switzerland and we left there at noon. The day driving had us stuck in excessive traffic and we didn’t return the rental until 9PM. We took an Uber from the rental location to the train station. The rental place did not have 24hr personnel but they gave us a gate code. It was a dark isolated business park. The Uber arrived pretty quickly so I didn’t have much time to worry.

We took an Uber from the rental office to the train station. It cost $45 dollars although the app quoted $30. At the station, we received confirming news we missed the last train back to Venice. We were given the option by security to stay with the police and sit on a bench from 11PM until 5am in the morning or to get a hotel a cross the street because the station closes at 1AM.

The security guard recommend a place and told me to be careful crossing the street. The hotel was 650 feet away according to my GPS and a I still unknowingly missed the right turn I was supposed to make and walked too far up. Even though our luggage was push luggage it was cumbersome and loud. We passed four men smoking and my stomach sank, I felt odd. I asked Issa if he thought we would be ok and he said, “no we need an Uber.” After just paying 50 dollars to get the station, I proceeded to walk.

A black Mercedes van passed me several times, first vertically with a passenger, then perpendicularly at the bottom of the street. Then he was parked and smoking something that smelled like grapes. He looked into my eyes and I looked down.

Seconds later a man approached me saying, “My sister I feel in my heart that man is following you and will steal your daughter, let me help you, where do you want to go?” I continued to decline his help and he insisted I was in danger. I called the police they put me on hold for a translator. I called back, the second person spoke enough English to ask where I was. I couldn’t read the signs or pronounce my location with certainty.

I could see the headlight of the van at the top of the block. This is now his third time circling the block. The man with the pink fanny pack claiming to have my safety as a priority said, “Don’t go to the top of the block.” I felt tears in my eyes. My phone was at 10%. I called an Uber, it was 4 min away and taking forever. The van drove down the block rolled down the window. It was a shiny black Mercedes van and the windows were pitch black. The driver said, “Would you like a ride?” I said very loudly, “No, thank you. No ride, no help”. I walked briskly to the top of the block. I saw a man and women walking by and called out to them, “excuse me what is the number for 911 here, if I need help?” He said, “Don’t talk to them, they are Italian. They do not care about you!” The couple said, “We are not Italian!”, got offended and walked away. I wanted to leave with them and hoped my question would alert them I was in trouble and that did not workout.

I quickly requested a second Uber. The driver was one min away. While we were waiting, the man with the fanny pack tried to take Issa’s luggage twice, as I screamed, “Give it back!” I called my uber and asked him to please hurry. He said, “I am driving mam, no talking and driving.” He pulled up in a black Mercedes sedan and I ran to the car but not quicker than the man who would not leave me alone.

The Uber driver was about to close his trunk and leave me in annoyance of whatever was being said to him in Italian. I said, “I am a US citizen.” showed him my passport and told him, “I must leave right now, please.” I began to throw my luggage in the trunk when he re-opened it. He took it out and said, “calm”. I ran into the car and took Issa with me. The driver put my luggage in while screaming at the man with the pink fanny pack in Italian. He kept telling him he was calling the police and “fuck off”.

When we finally pulled off I started crying and saying, “thank you”. He did take me to the hotel I couldn’t find and it was 2 block behind us. 2 blocks! The check in process took forever and attendant asked for everything but a blood sample. Issa and I didn’t take off our clothes, we were in shock. We Face-Timed family and friends to tell them of the experience until we were calm enough to go to sleep.

The hotel was extremely secure, so much so we could not work the elevator in the morning without the access code and missed our train. Luckily I paid an extra $9 for flexibility and they moved us to the next train at 8:15 am.

The day is filled with challenges. This bullet train didn’t go directly to the part of Venice I was trying to get to, known as the island. I barely got off at the correct stop in time. Thank goodness I did or I would have ended up deep in some other part of Italy.

We had to take a local train from Venezia Mestre by the airport to Venezia S. Lucia. Buying the tickets online on the platform was easier than actually getting on from the customer service desk. The line was out the door. The local train ride was 11 mins and tickets cost approximately $3.

At this point I’m running on fumes trying to at least lay eyes on the hotel I was supposed to be in the night before and at minimal get my son on a ferry so he can experience some type of a boat. I felt like cattle packing into the ferry and it took a while to get to San Marco by ferry. It was a cost effective ride, around $18 dollars per ticket.

The walk to the hotel from the dock almost killed us, tons of steps, directions were a maze. When we arrived at the hotel they revealed there was no elevator! I wanted to pass out while customer service representative was speaking. We took long showers and made the most of the 6 hours we had until it was time to leave for the airport. Nothing like I planned.

While I was shopping for souvenirs, Issa spilled Gelato everywhere, his fingers were sticky and his coat was a mess. I had to abandon gift hunting to get him cleaned up. The public bathroom cost $1.50 and smelled terrible. I decided to go back to the hotel. I still wish I was able to make it back to some of the cool t-shirt and bracelet shops. In a blink it was 5:45 pm and the plane left at 8:30pm. I thought of the shlep we had getting to the hotel and kindly asked the concierge for a taxi boat.

He said, “They are quite expensive”. I said, “Sir, I am asking you to call the boat, not how much it will cost.” We had to walk through a tunnel and a tiny path way. The walk was very short compared to all we had been through.

The sailor arrived a tiny bit late which was relief to discover. We hoped we didn’t miss him since that was the theme of the day. He loaded the luggage and took my hand and his hand touching mine was the best feeling. I could feel that a bit of fun was on the way. Once we got to the open water, the boat picked up speed and my sons’ eyes lit up. There it was. Joy after trauma. This boat ride gave a new meaning to save the best for last. 27 minutes and $150 dollars later we were at the airport. Very much on time. We were greeted and told which counter to check in at. We were guided to the expedited family security line, boarding started extremely early and just like that, we were gone.

The layover in Istanbul was 8 hours and I was wishing I booked the airport hotel in advance to be comfortable. The free sleeping area was packed and the paid sleeping pods looked like something for quiet relaxed adults not Prince Issa. When it was finally time to board Issa was about to cry when he overheard the man at the counter say we didn’t have a window seat. The attendant empathetically changed our seats to the very first row. We had tons of leg room and a window seat. Issa was so pumped and I appreciated the upgrade as well.

When we landed 9 hours later, police approached the plane looking for a passenger.At this point I was convinced I was on a TV show and no longer in my real life.

Getting that final Uber home and seeing my front door for the first time was the best part of my day. I slept for about 16 hours and I was tired for days.

LESSONs LEARNED

GOOD TO KNOW

Venice Italy

1. If you do not like walking this place is not for you. It is a maze, even the GPS gets confused. Some of the streets are so small you can easily miss them. I only found 60 percent of the places I was looking for. Be patient and prepared to be lost. At least everyone is walking.

2. Issa and I walked here at night and it has a different vibe, everyone was out walking and eating around 7pm - 10pm.

3. If you do not get a hotel on the canal you will be miserable. Dragging heavy bags up and down steps is not worth the savings. Hotels next to ferry stops or with water entrances are the best. Even going over a few bridges may make you feel like you are in the Olympics. You will instantly regret everything that you packed.

4. This is not the tropics it does get cold. Bubble jacket cold.

5. There is no quick in Venice, the ferry takes a while, plan an hour or even more to travel from San Marco to the airport.

Milan, Italy

1. Milan is Brooklyn, take that however, you want and act accordingly

2. Milano Centrale is a good place to get information on how to get around. I actually took the regular metro to one of my hotels because the customer service person made it that understandable

3. Nightime in Milano by the train stations are not safe for walking, Uber to your destination or stay inside

Paris, France

1. Accidentally found the red light district which is lively all night

2. Customer service is kind of cold you may find yourself wanting stay say, “What is your problem?” to your check out person in most places

3. Vegan food and bakery options are amazing

4. The Eiffel Tower sparkles every hour starting at 6 pm and ending at 11 pm

5. It is a complete zoo around the Eiffel Tower in the day time (Million Man March crowded)

6. Visiting the Eiffel Tower at 4am gives you a chance to have a moment. There may be no lights but is really intimate, no one is there and you can just pinch yourself and acclimate to the fact that you made it.

7. We did not go inside, however, advanced tickets are recommended to avoid painfully long lines.

Geneve, Switzerland

1. Experienced the rudest employees in several stores

2. First language is French. Only the people in my hotel spoke English, huge language barrier.

3. Everything was closed for Easter Monday. We were unable to eat anything from Switzerland.

TESLA ADVENTURES: HOW DRIVING A TESLA AFFected THE Trip

• The Telsa route directed me to stop at some very nice Mercure Hotels on the way to Paris.

• Some charge stations are in the middle of no where and seem like a mirage.

• I do wish the navigation also found supercharge stations near your final destination as a courtesy to charge up one last time. For example it will route you somehwere and have you arriving at 16%. Then when you search where you can get a super charge once you arrive it can be up to 20 min away. This can cause panic or inconvenience. Especially if it is out of the way of your plans or requires backtracking.

• Paris doesn’t have any visible public super chargers stations, mainly posh destination charging. This is how I ended up at the Shangri-La, Paris. I had 10% and explained I was uncomfortable driving around any further. We dined at the restaurant while the car charged. Surprisingly they had no super charger and after 3 hours and 4 courses, it was only at 60 percent!

• Heated seats decreased back pain and allowed me to drive very long periods of time without stopping. I drove straight from Milan to Paris with the exception of charging.

FOOD

La Tecia Vegana: Venice, Italy || This was a highly recommend vegan restaurant. The food was really good. Ravioli is hand made by the manager. The lasagna was delicious. I haven’t had regular tiramisu but the vegan version was great. Venice winner.

Oke Zattere : Venice, Italy || The pizza and vegetables lacked flavor. The bread was great. It was a long and confusing walk from the hotel. I wouldn’t recommend it for a vegan. I heard the non vegan pizza is good. The view outside was nice; the best part of finding this place was the scenery.

Gelato Fantasy: Venice, Italy || I had the banana gelato and Issa had the chocolate. It was yummy. I am grate full they had some flavors for vegans and did not leave us out of the fun.

Flower Burger: Milan, Italy || I was excited to try this burger. The colored bun really drew me in. It was average and I was underwhelmed. It did taste house made and I was full. I requested no Chiptole mayo so I probably altered the entire experience. This location did not have the shake machine. I was very upset. They had the shake on the website and once I arrived I was told it is not available at every store.

Linfa Milan, Italy

Linfa is 100% vegan. This place is a 10 out of 10. The food was so good we went there for dinner and ended up going back the next day for lunch. At dinner the preferred dish was the Cashew Pepper noodles, for lunch the preferred option was the bacon cheeseburger. The burger was not dry and the bacon flavor was unique. It tasted nothing like bacon it was just good, very smokey. My favorite meals in Milan came from Linfa.

At dinner there was a live DJ. The cutlery is gold and held up by magnets. Issa didn’t like the juices he said it tasted too healthy.

Vegamore : Milan, Italy || We were too late for breakfast and too early for dinner. We had some tasty pastries. I tried the hot chocolate and it was very bitter with little sugar. The place is charming and the atmosphere is relaxing. Reservations are recommended in the evening.

Shangri-La: Paris, France || The decor and color and scheme of the dining area is beautiful. I ate an eggplant that I didn't hate which is a miracle. The had a special vegan shepherds pie for Easter, curry vegetables and coconut ice cream for Issa. The service was amazing. This is the priciest meal on the highlight list.

We went to visit the terrace where you can see thee top of the Eiffel Tower.

Aujourd’hui Demain : Paris France || This was my favorite meal in Paris! The pancakes are scrumptious. I took six croissants and a slice of cheesecake to go, both were delicious. The line was out the door for at least an hour. It is really laid back. I met the owner she was so chill with ripped black jeans on.

There is a vegan super market in the back and a store that sells art, books and clothing items. There are many things to purchase here. My only regret is not staying in Paris longer so I could try more things on the menu.

Patisserie Vegetale: Paris, France || I had marble cake, banana nut bread and tea. Issa had chocolate cake and hot chocolate. My marble cake was the best item in our haul. I chose this place because they offer macaroons and Issa has been asking to try some. The flavor was pistachio and it had a lot of filling. He quickly said, “no thank you”. My cashier was so rude although her eye make up was flawless. This bakery has a consistent line.

Land and Monkeys: Paris France || This bakery made my eyes big, it had a lot of options. It was like a vegan Panera. I had one of the must try cookies. It was very sweet. We over did it and bought three baguettes by the time we got to the last one it was hard. I got a sandwich that came in handy when I was starving in Switzerland because everything was closed.

Wild & The Moon : Paris, Italy || I loved that the gentleman there made recommendations because I had no idea what to try. Issa wanted to try the black lemonade but he said it was for hang overs and had canibus in it. He recommended another juice, Issa said it taste like the forest but he did finish it. The cashier was so pleasant. I also bought to go granola. I had the Banh Mi sandwich and Issa had a BBQ burger. I inhaled my food, I was hungry and the flavors blended well together.

HOTELS

4/4/2022 -4/5/2022 : Hotel Olympia

Small hotel, on the canal, with a little bar and garden, the room was super small and had a canal view which was nice.

The hotel was somewhat easy to get to coming from the airport. I took a shuttle bus. It was very challenging walking to the train station. Getting up the Constitution Bridge was impossible without the help of the local men that move luggage for tips.

I chose this hotel because it was an 8 min walk to La Tecia Vegana. My top choice for Issa’s birthday dinner.

4/5/2023 -4/7/2023 : Grand Visconti Palace Hotel

Big hotel, some of the rooms have updated decor. The room sizable, you can actually swing your elbows and not fall out of the room. They have a pool but it was closed for maintenance during my visit. It has a pretty woman vibe. It seems like back in the day it may have been the hot spot.

I selected this hotel because I was walking distance to QC TremeMilano. The spa that has taken IG by storm.

4/7/23 - 4/9/23: Hotel HOY Home of Yoga

This boutique hotel caught eye because I was on a quest for peace and I figured the home of yoga has to be a great place to find some. The front of the hotel is a flower shop which is the cutest thing. The glass ceiling of the restaurant is beautiful.

I signed up for the hot yoga class and I could barely make it thirty minutes. It was embarrassing. I was a mess. Between sleep deprivation and the fact that the tea didn’t sit to well with me, I was all over the place and I had to tap out.

I was also excited the hotel is vegan, however, the food was too healthy. I didn’t love anything I ate . I could really taste the health and earth in everything, even the croissant which I think was wheat.

We stayed for two days and switched rooms on day two, due to our delayed arrival. The first room (43) was cute. It had a well designed bathroom but I had no stretch bar. The second room (44) had a stretch bar, a breakfast in bed table and the toilet was in separate room from the shower and sink. Both rooms where tiny and we tripped over our luggage. The beds where extremely comfortable. I was in bed until 4PM!

Onsite parking was non existent but we were so lucky to keep getting the same parking space one block up.

4/9/10: Hotel Bernina ||

Hotel is in a great location. Close to the fountain, connected to a restaurant and H&M across the street from the metro.

The room was up to date with black out curtains. Unfortunately, I visited during the holiday, everything was closed and that put a damper on my stay.

Parking is bit of walk, I suggest parking and tucking in early. I was told the streets are not kind from 10 pm - 7 am.

4/10/23 : Ostello Bello

Pictures were the last thing on my mind at Ostello Bello. It was cool that there was pictures of passport stamps on the wall and this was the only place that had a patio. The bar is open 24 hours. The place is artsy and for backpackers. Everything is digital. I felt very safe due the check in process and zero access to the public through the front door or elevator without authorized entry, fabs and codes.

4/11/2023 Hotel Canalleto

Finding this place will be the test to any relationship. Mother and son, besties, couples. It is a team building exercise and a firm, never again for me. Some of the streets we had to squeeze in to find it, absolutely ridiculous. It is right in the mix of food and action but no. This is not a fun walk with luggage. Stay someplace on the water.

THE SPA

QC TremeMilano: This spa was grand. It has three levels and roof top with over 20 unique rooms to visit. I went on a solo mission to reflect and relax. I finally got to lay my eyes on the storm room from IG which is actually called the “cinema room”. It was concise visit and I still have more to discover. This is a very couple friendly spa. Looking forward to visiting again with a plus one. The people have convinced me it is necessary.

PICTURE STORY

THANK YOU FOR READING :)

April 2023 Newsletter Vol 1

PRINCE ISSA Takes Europe for 11th Birthday

Issa has dreamed of visiting Italy since learning about Venice from watching an episode of Garfield. I learned of his interest in the Eiffel Tower this year after a school project he shared with me. I managed to squeeze a surprise in a surprise. He found out he was going to Venice during a quick layover in Turkey. He found out about Paris several days after the trip started. He cried tears of joy when we arrived in Paris and that made my soul sing. I’ve never seen those type of tears from him before, “Mom I have dreamed about this my whole life, I just can’t believe it. All of this just for me? I feel so special.”

Please enjoy this birthday video recapping the trip.

An April 2023 Volume 2 Newsletter will be released with all the specifics, where we stayed, what we ate, tips and tricks etc.

Prince Issa celebrates 11th birthday in Europe.

MUSIC UPDATES

• Celebrated 4 year anniversary guitar lessons with Dr.G this winter

• Selected for all county chorus for the first time this year

• Became a first year bass player (that means a lot of twinkle twinkle little star)

• Participated in first orchestra pyramid concert with children a grade level above, at Woodbridge High School

• Nickname is still “rockstar” at school

• Academic interest include building planes, and science however, he doesn’t love any subject more than music.

School Chorus Concert

First Bass Concert

All County Chorus

First Orchestra Pyramid Concert

Thanks for reading !!!

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February 2023 Newsletter

Canadalada’s NEW Book: Beautiful reject the Coloring book cognitive distortions

I am proud to announce that my new adult coloring book, “Beautiful Reject: The Coloring Book, Cognitive Distortions” is available at Barnes and Noble. The vision for the book came to me in a dream in 2019. A year after the dream, I attended a dinner at my aunts house. I connected with my cousin Zaria who I hadn’t seen in years. She informed me that she was an artist and shared some of her latest designs with me. I asked if she would be interested in working together to create a book. It took us one year to complete the collaboration.

2021 Party : Zarias’ Mom, Zarias’ Brother, Zaria

One of the most challenging things was trying to narrow down which distortions to illustrate as there are many more than the few I listed in Beautiful Reject: 7 Years of Delusional Dating. We ultimately decided to stick with the ones listed in the book and add one more bonus distortion we felt was overlooked.

Another contributor to the design of the book was Dr.Miles Davis. During our recent meet up in Winchester,Va we discussed the progression of education and he informed me he was a contributing author the book, “ The Evolving College Presidency”. When I told him about the coloring book and its purpose, he encouraged me not to miss an opportunity to let participants reflect on what they were learning. Just like that it went from a book in understanding level to reflective level.

Dec 30th 2022: Winchester with Dr.Davis

The characters are not based on anyone in particular with the exception of the character on page six for '“Black and White Thinking” which is me and page 24 for “Personalization” which is Issa. While we try not to live in these lenses, those are the distortions we have the hardest time with.

The coloring book has a publish date of 2/14/23 exactly two years from my first book. The date was symbolic to me because in 2021 I detached from an unhealthy situation on Valentine’s Day. While many were opening their chocolates, I was focused on the book going live and starting a new chapter without someone special.

Holiday's despite the origin or intent bring joy to some and misery to others. I find for me the best gift is always self-love, however, it can be a complex journey. I wish I learned about distortions when I was younger verses in paid therapy session at 36! It is my desire they become commonly discussed in the Black community so people can identify what is happening to them and work their way out. I encourage you to share this book with the younger people in your lives whom you think can benefit from this psychological perspective.

The advanced readers copy event was held Feb 18th, 2023 in Woodbridge, Virginia (pictures below). Copies were not available online from the 14th -19th. As of today the book is available online stateside with international distribution to come.

Additional merchandise including blank accompanying journals and 12 hour water bottles will be available on the Hair Therapy store.Thank you to everyone who made this possible. Looking forward to your feedback.

For more videos and info follow my personal page IG @Candalada

Thank you for reading!

January 2023 Newsletter

successful completion of Finance 101 with Hair Therapy MeMBER Rufaro

You all may be familiar with the sandwich method. One negative wedged in between two positives. Starting with the positive. Hair Therapy rolled out its first offerings of courses on various topics to support women, Jan. 7th, Organization 101, Jan. 10th, Anger and Stress and Jan. 18th, Finance 101.

Finance 101 was very well received. The presentation covered statistics, a financial health check quiz and strategies for transitioning from surviving to thriving. The calls had the support of two accountants to share concepts and outlooks.

If you would like to review the sessions the raw videos are uploaded to www.hairtherapybycandalada.com/htu

The Organization 101, session 1 held on Sat. Jan. 7th, had one attendee and experienced severe technical difficulties. It also was not recorded so the valuable information shared is not readily available.

The Finance 101, session 2 held on Sat. Jan. 21st, did have attendance but lost all participants from the Wednesday night group. Thus, deeming Saturday not a good day for HT online learning; resulting in cancellations of subsequent planned Saturday sessions (ie Organization 101, Session 2).

Anger and Stress debuted Tuesday Jan. 10th, with one attendee and session 2 held Tuesday, Jan. 17th was my first, zoom doom with zero attendees.

LESSONS:

1. Attendees respond well to flyers (I tried bitmoji videos, no one cared)

2. Attendees needed multiple reminders. The morning of and 10-15 minutes prior.

3. Unless its actual college anything over one day a week is too much

4. When zoom is dry go live (an option I thought of an did not execute due to discouragement)

5. Cash rules everything around us (everything is connected emotions, organization etc ultimately people are more interested in cashflow)

6. Don’t assume you do not need to market because people know you or attended things in the past (only Beyonce gets away with that)

SOLUTIONS:

Organization 101: The content is being converted to a presentation format and will be uploaded by Wednesday. The course was originally designed as more of a consulting and sharing style which is most impactful however the presentation is the pivot. It is not too late to get an agenda and make most of 2023.

Anger and Stress in Black Women: Intro session was recorded and has been uploaded. The course has moved to Wednesday. Wednesday’s are HTU’s official day of instruction. Anger and Stress will run through February as we explore the history of anger and stress in Black women. Following the book Going Off by Faye Childs.

www.hairtherapybycandalada.com/htu

December 2022 Newsletter

Exploring ArubA with Prince Issa and NikkRich

This December I had the pleasure of visiting Aruba for the first time to celebrate my sisters birthday. What made this trip special is my sister’s paternal ties to Aruba. We were able to visit where her dad grew up and explore the less touristy side of the island. The highlight of the trip was our stay a The Boardwalk Boutique Hotel and the vegan spread made special for us by Chef Djurick.

Prince Issa at Baby Beach

After scribbling in my note pad for days. When I finally narrow everything down I create a digital itinerary in my notes app on my phone. This is a screen shot of my guide during the trip. I also add a screen shot of a map. It helps me remember the relation of the locations. During the planning stage I spend hours on google maps. It is the only thing that helps me prevent creating a plans that have me driving like a yoyo verses a person that actually vetted the sense of the route.

Hotels

We stayed at three hotels for various reasons. I was able to get the first room using my Marriott points. This helped me reserve the savings for the 2nd nights stay at a premium location fitted to my sisters personality. While I imagined the night of luxury would be amazing, I didn't find it fiscally responsible to stay there for more than one night. For the last day I chose a resort where I discovered the rate to be inflated on the weekends but quite a steal on the weekdays.

Marriott Courtyard Aruba

The Courtyard Marriott resides on a block full of mega hotels. It is a quaint two level hotel. We did not dine there. The room was okay. It wasn’t great or upsetting. There was a patio but the door to the patio was deadly. Extremely heavy and almost killed each of us at different times.

I enjoyed the pool the most. The look of it is inviting both day and night. I love jacuzzis. I dipped my toes in the jacuzzi while Issa played in the pool. I have no idea why he enjoys the cold water over the warm water.

View from the patio

BOARDWALK BOUTIQUE HOTEL

The Boardwalk was by far my favorite hotel stay to date. The pros are:

1. The pool has no open or close time.

2. Boardwalk beach guest receive waiter service from the Ritz Carlton.

3. There is a walk up smoothie shack on the property.

4. The most impressive thing about Boardwalk is the atmosphere. There are coconut trees EVERYWHERE. It feels like you are in the jungle. The rooms are themed after little houses to make you feel like you live there and each room comes with a grill. It is truly a dream. The textures and color scheme refreshing.

5. The bathroom has a window that is easy to open and you can hear birds chirping while you take a shower.

The Cons:

1. The primary con is the hold they place on your card. There was a 500 dollar hold placed on my card. The room was already prepaid so I had a hard time wrapping my head around such an aggressive incidental hold. When I ordered breakfast they placed an additional hold for the cost of the food. I was rolling my eyes. I called as soon as checked out. The jig is up, release the hold!

2. Also the hotel is also not directly on the beach, however, there is a cute little shuttle, and a designated space of the beach for Boardwalk guest. Servers on scooters come to take your order.

3. I have recently learned they are only accepting children over 12 going forward according to the website. Issa is 10, I knew nothing about this when booking.

4. There seems to a cat that lurks and runs up to the door meowing non-stop

For breakfast I had the “Scrambled Breakfast” (tofu option) and Nikky had the Açaí Bowl. I scrapped the plate. Sitting on the patio eating breakfast there was a memorable moment.

Eagle ARuba Resort & casino

I chose this space for the full kitchen, patio and enclosed bedroom. While it was as spacious a regular one bedroom apartment, I couldn’t adapt to everything being beige. Even the staff had on beige shirts. The pool closed early so we couldn't take a late night dip.

The one thing I did like was the life size checkers and chess games. We played that late night.

Overall it didn’t excite me and for that reason, I would not book this place again. I never went to visit the casino. It is located in a separate building so you don’t have to walk through it to get to other amenities.

food

Cubas Cooking

The tacos where ok, the cake vegan chocolate was a yummy surprise. They had a lot of non vegan options so maybe all the fun on the menu is located there.

Yemanja

Yemanja was a disaster. I tried making reservations from the US. I wanted it to be our last meal but realized they don’t open until 5:30pm by which time would be on the plane. I missed their correspondence because by the time they emailed I was already on my way to Aruba.

They had no availability for us as walk ups and even gave us a hard time when we asked about ordering carry out. The hostess told me the had to check with the kitchen to see if carry out was ok. We did eventually get carryout. I complained about the resistance to serve us and the manager gave us free drinks while we waited for the pre authorized carry-out.

Due to the pure anger of having dinner ruined on the first night, there are no pictures of the food. The food was very good but the presentation of it was affected by the one million individual containers. We ordered the vegan sampler.

If you plan to visit Yemanja, secure reservations. It is a popular spot. They also don’t really welcome kids. They only offer 1 hour when kids can dine-in 5:30pm—6:30pm.

Fishes & more

We enjoyed a guitarist playing live music on the patio. The and more in the tile means vegan options which was interesting to learn.

1. Vegan Calamari, no for me, yes for Issa.

2. Coconut Soup, I loved the soup.

3. Vegan Portobello was a yes for Nikky.

4. Tofu Tower was a hit for Issa.

5. Peanut Butter Brownie dessert was so good we ordered two.

One thing that made no sense was the bathroom. It doesn't match the ambiance of the restaurant. It reminded me of gas station bathrooms.

Solanio, Ritz Carlton

I was ready to order the exact breakfast that I found on a blog while planning the trip. It was clear my server wasn’t familiar with the items I was requesting. I asked another server what happened to Chef Djurick and his fabulous meals. He explained he is at another restaurant located near by and he would bring him to the table.

Chef Djurick told me that he has moved from Solanio and currently creating lunch meals at Moderna, another restaurant on the property. He and his wife were vegan and he made many creative things during his residency. He is no longer vegan but willing to whip up something for my sister and I based on the ingredients he has available.

Himself and three staff members brought out a lovely spread. The apple cinnamon pancakes were my favorite. I usually like one flavor on my pancakes at a time but the way he blended the syrups and other flavors was something only a professional could do.

My sister felt extra special. Bless the server that went the extra mile to make this happen and the Chef for being so kind and personable.

Happy Bowl

Located in the same shopping center as Cuba’s Cooking, Happy Bowl has a robust and overwhelming menu for first timers.

I had the Protein Explosion, Nikky had the Fresh Energy and Issa had oat banana pancakes. I liked my food but I was still hungry when I was finished. I tasted Issa’s pancakes, I thought they were horrible but he finished them. Nikky said she liked her bowl.

We packed this lunch for our time at Baby Beach. I would go again but order more food and skip the pancakes.

Ike’s Bistro

This was the best dinner of the trip. The restaurant is located inside of the Manchebo Hotel which wasn’t easy to find. A man was playing the saxophone when we arrived. Our table was by the pool which was lit in blue. This place screams date night.

The server was a bit too raw for me. As refined as the space was she lacked decorum. Nikky ordered truffle risotto, I ordered vegan fish, for dessert we had the warm apple crumble.

My dish came with yucca and mango salsa. The yucca was crisped perfectly, the fish took me back to a dinner I had in 2010 at Ruth’s Chris. This is a big statement but the chef at Ike’s mastered texture and flavor.

The Aruba Experience Cafe

This was our last meal. The breakfast spot I read great things about. The interior an exterior are full of exuberant colors. The seating areas feel private because the tables are not too close and not many are larger than a four top. The back patio feels like the coolest backyard at someones grandmother’s house. The walls have lots of art and murals that are conveniently tagged with IG handles.

The entrees are named as affirmations which I found to be beautiful, “I am Confident” “I am Beautiful” “I am Charming” to name a few. I tasted many things here, mocha pancakes, tamarind lemonade, arepas but things went south when I ordered the “I am Beauty” vegan option …… and received the regular one. I remained calm and still left a tip but I was pissed. I still ordered extra food to-go for the plane ride home.

P.S. I had a layover in Charlotte and I ate there too but that is a story for another day.

Thanks for Reading

New news for Jan 2023 coming soon!

November 2022 Newsletter

A Night At the Ritz Carlton

This past November I curated a surprise pj party for my aunty. I opted for the Tyson’s Corner Ritz Carlton because my aunt doesn’t care for driving in cities. Also this hotel offers self parking. Unfortunately, the self parking was very confusing and a few people were very confused (including myself) about how to enter the hotel once parked.

To pull off a truly personal experience I brought an induction cook top which allowed me to heat up the salmon and rice I cooked at home. This allowed us to avoid room service or having to go back out after coming in. We used chaffers to keep the jerk wings warm. The room was filled with the aroma of home cooked food, which in my opinion is even better than the smell of candles.

I told the hotel we were celebrating a birthday in advance. They sent up a complimentary bottle of champagne and dessert.

I packed all of the table settings in a large suite case making it easy to carry through the lobby and not look like was moving in. I brought a Life Time 4ft fold out table but I forgot the black table cloth and could not use it bare, not sexy. There was still enough space between the writing desk and living room table for a dessert display and food display.

The room is called “The Queen Executive Sweet”. It has two bathrooms. One for guest, located on the left as soon as you enter the room. I found this to be very convenient. The main bathroom hosts a traditional tub with shower and a completely separate shower. This way two people can shower at the same time.

Tip: If curating a hotel party be the first to check in with at least 1.5 hours alone. This gives you time to think and set things up with extra options and distraction. Also gives you sometime to put on your make up before everyone arrives.

Stick to simple color schemes. Mine was black and silver. I used elements of the room t o help tie the look together.

Guest Bathroom

Wakanda Forever

I had a Wakanda Forever Pre Movie Party. The purpose of this was for my friends to have a chance to get to know each other. Since the movies are quiet and dark and no place for small talk. The window for celebration was small, from 4:30 pm-6:30 pm and the movie started at 7. Upon reflection I pushed it a little close with a 6:30 pm end time.

The party was like a kid party but for adults. Lots of decorations (the kid part) and lots of real food and drinks (the adult part). We had vegan spaghetti , baked wings, salmon, rice. I was excited to get reviews on the spirits I’ve been collecting on travel.

We went to the Dolby Theater at AMC. After tons of research I decided that seeing and hearing the movie in the format it was created for made the most sense. 17 of us had the best seats in the house, the first elevated row behind the handicapped seating. The movie was long and emotional. The most exciting fact that I learned is the new Black Panther is Guyanese.

October 2022 Newsletter

ICE ICE BABY: EXPLORING ICELAND WITH PRINCE ISSA

THE SUMMARY

We arrived at Reykjavík–Keflavík Airport at 6:30 am, by 8:30 am we were at the Blue Lagoon. The following are the immediate lessons I learned about this attraction.

Lesson 1-6:

1. Boys over 8 can’t go in the women locker room and will be split up from their moms.

2. Get the package with robe. It is not worth the savings to be cold in the locker room after the shower. They only distribute the towels at the end of the visit.

3. Bring travel size shampoo, conditioner and multiple styling aids. The shower in the locker room has water that comes down from the top making almost impossible to not wet your hair thus ruining your hairstyle and make up before getting into the lagoon to take a money shot selfie.

4. If you wear wigs or weaves they will get ruined in the water and turn rock hard especially if you receive an in water massage or accidentally get the ends wet. Anticipating this I brought a throw away wig (a new but cheap wig that I discarded after leaving the pool).

5. You must decide if you want to true spa experience or a Sports Illustrated photo because you can not have both. If you manage to not get your make up blasted off in the shower you may have wished you washed it off when they distribute the mud masks. To get the full affect of the skin care products it is best to have a clean and clear face. Both men and women seems to enjoy the mask ritual.

6. Bring your own extra moisturizing lotion and travel size make up. You will look ashy and washed out if you use the provided lotion. A mini MUA kit can be helpful in accomplishing the look you want for the rest of the day and other excursions.

After visiting the Blue Lagoon we reset at our first hotel. I rewashed both of our heads with products for afro hair to prevent damage. First thing in the morning we followed Ring Road southeast towards Vik. After spending a few hours in Vik for lunch it was tempting to hang out until check in, however, I continued driving further southeast to the Jökulsárlón Glacier Lagoon. We caught the best view just before sunset.

Following the Jökulsárlón excursion we returned back to Vik for much needed rest at hotel number 2. We had no luck seeing the Northern Lights on the 2.5 hour drive back from the glacier lagoon or overnight. Instead we were greeted with hail and Icelandic Wind during the drive and cloud overnight. The wind was so aggressive it moved our bodies as we walked.

Day three we visited the Black Sand Beach before leaving Vik then we followed Ring Road back towards the capital. We stopped to see two waterfalls coming from south heading north the first was Skogafoss you can walk right up to it. 30 min away is Seljalandsfoss which you can walk underneath. Although I was all geared up in a water proof jacket, pants and rain boots my face got soaked and I was a bit uncomfortable when we stopped for food and on the ride back to Reyavik. My clothes felt heavy and damp. It may have been best to change into dry clothes and another jacket in the car after visiting fall #2.

We reached Reyavik at 7:30pm not leaving time for much. We managed to make it to the Perlan Dome. Since they closed at 9:30pm the girl didn’t charge us full price. Issa was able to see the man made ice cave which he loved. The Northern Lights exhibit was closed which really annoyed us. We didn’t see the real or fake lights Northern Lights.

Our last night of rest was the best, we had an afternoon flight and no pending plans. We used every minute until the 11am check out. In the lobby Issa practiced for a while as I filled up our water bottles. We loaded up our luggage for the last time. On the way out we visited a grocery store and a smoothy shop.

Due to unexpected exhaustion we didn’t get to visit the old light house in Garoskagi. I also didn’t take him to the LAVA show. It was not on my itinerary we kind of stumbled into it and the timing didn't work out. If we ever head back to Iceland it will be to check out those two things and see what the northern side of the country has to offer.

Lastly, driving in Iceland was liberating renting a car is an absolute must in my opinion. Trying to figure out how to fill my tank was a bit frustrating.There is an eye catching gas station that glows pink at night named Orkan. It rejected my card on every attempt.

At the N1 station I was able to buy a gift card an use it at the pump. She explained some locations are stores that have pumps and can only issue gift cards while others are full blown gas stations with more payment flexibility. At the N1 near the airport the attendant let me fill up and then pay directly with my debit card after. After all I went through I was so grateful.

PICTURE STORY

Vikurfjara Black Sand Beach

The food

BLUE LAGOON’s LAVA RESTAURANT (GRINDAVIK)

The couple next to us paid our bill. They never spoke to us and left before we finished. The women kept smiling at Issa. I suspect she found joy in overhearing some of his questions.

THE SOUP COMPANY (VIK)

The soup here was too much to finish. You can get a refill and try another type of soup if you choose to dine in. This is where we came across the unexpected LAVA Show. Unfortunately, we just didn’t have time consider the attraction.

Indian summer Vegan Soup / Comes with the best bread

HOTEL KRIA’s DRANGAR RESTAURANT (VIK)

We loved the decor and service. We were the last table seated for the evening but they did not rush us. The dessert was unique and tasted amazing.

OLVERK (Hveragerði)

Heard about Olverk on a blog. Went to try number 7 the vegan nacho pizza and it did not disappoint. I never knew I could like creamy, crunchy pizza.

ThE COo COo NEst (Reykjavík)

They made us a vegan pizza called the “Chef Surprise. It was loaded with vegetables which I usually hate but I enjoyed it. Even Issa ate all of his vegetables.

Valdis IcE CREAM

Open late and located right next to The Coo Coo Nest. We crushed our strawberry lemonade sorbet. Not one pic of it.

SMIDJAN BRUGGHUS, VIK

Known for burgers and beers. The vegan burger came with onion rings on top and was a refreshing change from pre-made burgers and black bean burgers. One of the walls is made of glass so you can see how their beer is made. Iceland did not miss all of our meals were good.

JoE & THE JUICE

They call the shake I had “Blue Magic” reading the ingredients I did know what to expect Avocado, Blue Spirulina, Cashew Coconut Drink, Date, Hemp Seed, Ice, Lemon, Prote. I sure wish I could recreate this flavor at home. Imagine how excited I was when I discovered they have several locations including a location in New York and 3 in Washington D.C. not sure why I never heard of them.

Found the biggest all vegan grocery store in the world! Thats until Plant X decided to build a bigger vegan store in Canada recently. It was cool not having to worry about what I pick up. I bought spices. Iceland is known for its salt, I opted to get garlic written Icelandic because it is a spice I use often. Issa picked pancake mix and chocolate to bring home.

the hotels

Night 1: We stayed at Hotel 201. It doesn’t have much curb appeal. The room is extra basic and they have no converters for appliances. The best thing was the towel bar which I used to dry some wet garments.The breakfast was quite a spread and more cozy and inviting than anything else. Smells like toast and coffee in the hallways. There is a wall full of pictures of Iceland we enjoyed looking through in the lobby.

Night 2: Hotel Kria was our favorite. It is sexy. It doesn’t have a pool or spa. It has a game room with darts and pool tables. Blow dryer by Babyliss pro, conversion plugs upon request, ample storage for luggage and clothing, an onsite restaurant, a good view and comprehensive breakfast.

Night 3 : Reykjavík Natura This was the easiest to access from the airport and very comfortable. Art in the hallways, several lounge spaces and a full spa. I didn’t get a chance to visit the spa. I enjoyed the spacious proper sitting area in the room. The bathroom was oddly narrow but the lighting was amazing. Breakfast was 27 USD. The oatmeal was memorable.

Thanks for Reading

September Newsletter

WOMAN KING: THUNDEROUSLY cinematic

The title “The Woman King” is as compelling and complex as the film. The Hair Therapy tribe and company dominated row five for the Big Show viewing @ the Alamo Drafthouse in Woodbridge, Virginia this past September.

The movie description:

In the 1800s, a group of all-female warriors protects the African kingdom of Dahomey with skills and fierceness unlike anything the world has ever seen. Faced with a new threat, Gen. Nanisca trains the next generation of recruits to fight against a foreign enemy that's determined to destroy their way of life.

Review: Rating 5/5

The film was undeniably cinematic. The colors crisp. The shots well planned scenic. The casting with the exception of John Boyega was phenomenal. He looked promising but his accent in my opinion didn’t translate to a believable African accent. He didn’t emit the type of power or fear Daniel Kaluuya gives me when he raises his voice. Thuso Nokwanda Mbedu who played Nawi stole my heart.

I enjoyed watching this film because I felt seen and understood. It shows a woman’s ability to fight, plan, sacrifice and rejoice. While I am not a warrior I identify with the concept of going against the grain and the burden of being responsible for multiple peoples livelihood.

The film reminds us all women don’t solve problems in a mild mannered fashion and sometimes compliance is not enough to get the job done. Watching “The Woman King” with a group of amazing African American women really made it one of the most memorable movie experiences. If you missed it watch the trailer here.

The Matriarch of the Family Turns 90

My grandma Marian Hopkinson was born in Guyana, South America September 23rd, 1932. She married my grandfather Lionel Hopkinson and moved to America when she was 45 in 1977. She was a midwife in Guyana and in order to continue that work in the US she worked as a home health aid and acquired a GED.

Eventually she became a pediatric nurse at North Shore hospital in Manhasset, NY. Grandma worked the over night shift. She left at 9pm every night and took several buses with a travel time of over an hour.

In 1987 she purchased a new contraction home in Brooklyn, New York. I was four years old and I remember the fence being installed and the trees being planted.

In 2007 she retired from North Shore hospital after 30 years of service and has since travelled to Africa and her home country. In 2010 she transferred ownership of her home to her son, Dale Hopkinson (my dad) and granddaughter (me).

Currently in 2022 Marian is 90 years old. She still lives at 1936 and enjoys listening to her great grandson,Issa Hopkinson, play the guitar when he visits.

circa 1967

Grandma and her best friend

Grandpa (Lionel Hopkinson)

Grandma working as a nurse in NorthShore Hospital

Grandmas first home 1987 : Grandma, Dad, Grandma, Aunt Eline

Grandma and Candalada 2001

Grandmas house passed down to Dad and Candalada 2022

Prince Issa and Great Grandma Marian Hopkinson 90th Birthday Celebration

Grandma, Candalada. Prince Issa

Grandma we thank you for your discipline and your example.

Thanks for reading :)

August Newsletter

Candalada’s 39th Birthday Picture Story

May Newsletter

From the Brunch tour to the Carryout tour: WHATS HAPPENING IN PHILLY

After spending years in Hair Therapy missing all the BBQ’s and parties on the weekends, I wanted to explore the amazing restaurants DC and Northern VA area had to offer. I wanted to see my friends and clients faces verses the back of their heads. In 2017 I started the DCVA Brunch Tour.

The concept was similar to that of a bar crawl. I found about 5-6 brunch spots in the DC and Northern Virginia area. I picked one date per month from April to June and spread the word for my Facebook and IG friends to meet me there. The April brunch almost always got rained out and the June 3rd brunch had the most attendees because two of of my friends share a bday on that date and it was a great way to get together to have a fabulous time.

2017 was a blast, as was 2018, 2019 I struggled, it was just a year after loosing my mother and I couldn’t find the joy required to pull it off. 2020, boom Covid-19 arrived. I sat there staring at the flyer on my computer sad at the thought of cancelling. I called the restaurants to inquire about their status. One was closed all together due to lack of patrons and the other converted to carry out only. I accepted that brunch 2020 was not a possibility.

I had a light bulb moment in 2021 after becoming completely sick of being a full time chef, cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner for months on end I decided to do a carry out tour. The benefits included tasting really good food that I did not have to prepare. The down side was none of my friends were with me. It was a very personal experience. Just Issa and I.

For the first carry out tour we went to North Carolina in March 2021. Out of the seven places we visited one was dine in. Getting to 7 places in just three days on completely opposite sides of the state required a great deal of coordination. It was such an adventure.

When people see the pictures they say, “That looked fun, I want to go eat with you all next time.” I politely smile with no response. I know they would not be down for sleeping in the car waiting for a place to open. Leaving one spot and heading straight to another within the same hour. Due to time retrains and proximity sometimes I have to visit 3 places in one town because once I leave I won’t pass that area again. To add additional complexity I may be driving in a rural area for 5 hours before I get to a populated area that accommodates my dietary needs.

In May 2021, I went to my home city, Brooklyn. I acted like a complete tourist exploring the vegan options there. With only two days to spare I ate at 7 places. When I go back to visit stopping at Champs Diner is a must now.

July 2021, I went across the United States. Below is a flyer of some of my favorite spots in America. What made this tour special is I searched for both Vegan and non-vegan restaurants to accommodate my dad. GW Fins left quite an impression and had something for both of us.

This past March I was inspired by the traveling exhibit “The Journey to Freedom” of Harriet Tubman to visit Philly. Prior to this visit. I have only driven through Philly. I was very excited I had to opportunity to bring my cousin Jahnyah who is willing to go through the shenanigans required for a day trip carryout tour. On the way out we took a tour of the Magic Gardens and it was just as great as the name implies.

Each place had something good to offer but if I could only go to one place it would be 20th street Pizza. Wow just wow.

Cheezy Vegan has amazing wall art and good french toast. Batter and crumbs had a cannoli Nyah liked. Tattooed Mom, served unique atmosphere and both vegan and non vegan cheesesteak. It is always exciting to find gems with variety.

Thanks for Reading :)

April Newsletter

April The Month of The Prince

Remembering Prince on the 6 Year Anniversary

Candalada, Prince Issa, Candalada’s Dad in Studio B at Paisley Park

Last year July 2021, I took a trip across the country with my dad and my son. I had a grand plan of detouring to Paisley Park as a surprise since they are both Prince fans. Tour tickets were available online for months as well as the day before we arrived to Minnesota. When we finally arrived to our hotel, I went online to purchase the tickets and they were gone!

I got up early in the morning and headed to Paisley Park to explain the situation and see if I could buy tickets on-site. The guard told me to come back around 11am. I arrived at 11am very nervous with my dad and son. A manager came out to see us, I explained my dilemma to him in hopes to get on a tour and he told me “I am unable to accommodate you. You all are welcome to look in our gift shop and hang out in the lounge”. I was so disappointed. I bought some souvenirs, Issa and I took selfies outfront by the Prince symbol but. I could not shake the feeling of dropping the ball. The security guard assured us that Prince would have never turned a child away but it didn’t help.

Once I left, I was stuck between I’m never going back again and I have to know what I missed. This February I decided it was time for a do over. We are all going back and making a day of it. Issa turned 10 in April and it would be a memorable gift.

We took the VIP tour. We had an amazing host, unfortunately it was his last day. In the beginning we were checked by security and my phone was locked in a bag with some type of sensor on top. They checked my Sony camara into a locker and gave me a ticket. I was also informed if I wanted a pic in studio B I had to buy a thumb drive for $10.

In the beginning of the tour I saw Prince’s office, letters from the White House and guitars. In the middle of the tour I saw an insane collection of his shoes, the actual bike from Purple Rain, notes from his note books, took a picture in Studio B and heard an unreleased song. Towards the end they told us we were able to take pictures in the big room Prince used to throw parties in. I was allowed to request my professional camera back and use it.

This tour is very inspiring even if you are not a fan of his music I recommend it because you learn the things that he stood for and the other contributions he made to the industry. He informed artist through his actions and interviews of how to navigate the business side of music industry. The exclusive footage played throughout the tour was my favorite part.

If you would like to coordinate your fits with your visit you can order your Prince gear online before visiting. Some of the items online are not in the Paisley Park on-site store.

Issa’s hat and shirt were only available online. Everywhere we went he received comments and positive responses. The TSA officer even allowed Issa to be fast tracked and go through a special entrance.

Prince Issa Turns 10!!!

This year. I made ten minute video recapping some of the most memorable moments over the past few years. It includes some of the places Issa has travelled and shows the beginning of his love for the guitar.

Thanks for Reading

March Newsletter

Women’s History Month

The title “Women’s History Month” implies that we should educate ourself about women that made remarkable impacts to life as we know it. While global and national history are important I think recognizing family history can be equally important.

In my family the first women to study photography abroad was my sister NikkRich. Since her graduation, she worked on passion projects as well as industry projects. Early in her career she curated her first show Counterpoint in DC, as a compliment to the release of her first book.

Last year NikkRich shot a campaign for Shea Moisture, which featured Miss Tina Knowles (Beyonce’s mother) and Neal Farniah (stylist to the stars).

Tina Knowles

Neal Farniah

On Nikky’s last visit home we had the opportunity visit the National Gallery of Art and see two installations. The first, The New Women Behind the Camera installation displaying work from a compilation of female photographers over an extended period of time. The second, a preview of James Van Der Zee’s “A Portait of Harlem” featuring photos of the late Marcus Garvey.

WOMEN OWNED BUSINESSES

Hair Therapy member Kay has her own company selling natural bracelets KayJewelMe. Kay donated 4 bracelets to the participants of RAE2022. Her natural bracelets have been worn by Malik Dope, Victorious Hall and Sean Boyce.

Natural bracelets have become popularized in recent years as the conversation about self-care and mental health get louder. Natural stones are thought to bring, peace, protection, focus and fertility amongst other things to those who wear it.

I have ordered a few for myself, and Prince Issa, Kay’s bracelets have become one of my favorite gifts to give.

Queen’s Vegan Cafe

Meet Queen the owner of Queen’s Vegan Cafe in Salem, Virginia. I found her browsing on Happy Cow for best vegan food in Salem. I was devastated to see she was closed on Sunday’s so I gave her a call. To my surprise she was holding a pop-up this past Sunday and I was able to get my hands on her food.

I noticed Queen had on multiple natural bracelets in her website photos so I brought her a KayJewelMe bracelet to encourage her to stay focused during her entrepreneurship journey. The bracelet was presented by Prince Issa and she loved it.

Mushroom Swiss Burger

The burger was Issa’s favorite of the two entrees. He liked the seasoning of patties and the sauces. He said the sauce was pretty good.

Birillia Taco’s

I liked the taco’s more than burger. I have made tacos at home but they never tasted like this. I must admit I didn't eat it the right way, I did not dip my taco in the sauce and I did not add salsa to it but I still loved it.

My favorite new snack!!!!!!!!!!! Oreo Bars are so yummy I have requested for some to be shipped to me.

THANKS FOR READING :)

February Newsletter

A NIGHT TO BE REMEBERED: RAE2022

"Rappers and Entrepreneurs" RAE was a private documentary screening event that showcased male African American community leaders, entrepreneurs and musicians from the D.C. metropolitan area. 

The event featured a short documentary on the issues faced by the participants and revealed which strategies they used to overcome personal and professional obstacles. The purpose of the event is to empower both the storyteller and the audience.

Unfortunately, Chef Rob recently passed away and the film was dedicated to him.

Participants: Victorious Hall, Malik Dope, Sean Boyce Johnson, Chef Rob

For more pictures please visit the RAE webpage.

Prince Issa: On a mission to be self-sustained

This year Issa began selling cookies during the Valentine’s season to support his music lessons. Issa celebrated his 3rd year guitar anniversary on 11/15/21. On a mission to be self-sustained his initial goal was to sell $140 a month. The monthly cost of lessons. He exceeded that goal last month and continues to wake up early to fulfill orders.

After only 10 days in business Issa received big news. He has been invited to participate in the National Young Scholar Program at Wake Forest University for Summer 2022! This fiscal goal is much more than music lessons. With Wake-Forest in mind he has raised funds through donations and cookie sales. To learn more about how to order cookies or the Wake Forest program click here.

In honor of Black History month Issa and I hosted the, “ Issa and Mommy in Morning Show” a live feed on Facebook and Instagram. The format included a reading followed by a song.

Issa read from Vashti Harrisons, Little Legends: Exceptional Men in Black History and played a one familiar melody before or after each reading. The highlight of doing the show together was a repost from Tom Higgenson encouraging Issa to keep on playing.

Lastly, Issa participated in a school fundraiser. A penny drive for the Prince William County Pet Shelter. He was able to collect 1,800 pennies otherwise known as $18 for the drive that ended 2/17.

What is a leap year and why is it necessary?

Is it just me or does today feel like the 29th? I found myself saying, “What is the date?” all day. When I started seeing posts that read, “today is my birthday although it really falls on Feb the 29th”, it reminded me that I don’t have that extra day this year.

We may have learned about leap years in elementary school but do we remember all of the rules and exceptions? I headed to timeanddate.com for some clarity.

According to TimeandDate.com

“Leap years in the western calendar were first introduced over 2000 years ago by Roman general Julius Caesar. The Julian calendar, which was named after him, had only one rule: any year evenly divisible by four would be a leap year.

This formula produced too many leap years, causing the Julian calendar to drift apart from the tropical year at a rate of 1 day per 128 years. This was not corrected until the introduction of the Gregorian calendar more than 1500 years later, when a number of days were skipped to realign our calendar with the seasons.”

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January Newsletter

Prince Issa’s Cookie Shop is Taking Orders

Prince Issa’s Cookies were a hit this summer at his first pop-up selling out in under 30 minutes. Taking orders for pick up 2/4/22, 2/5/22, 2/11/22, 2/12/22, 2/13/22, 2/14/22 text or call 703-389-6098. Issa is raising money for music. He is a third year guitar student.

Celebrating Black Men 2/22/22

I am hosting RAE for the third time. This time we are celebrating on a Tuesday at the Alamo Drafthouse in Woodbridge. Featuring Malik Dope as seen on America’s Got Talent and Sean Boyce from ABC’s, For Life.

Tickets are 20 dollars at this time and must be purchased in advance. To purchases a ticket, donate or become a sponsor click here.

TV NEWS

I am a bit late to the show Euphoria. I watched Season 1 this past summer and recently caught up on this Seasons 2 episodes. This show is absolutely insane.

The main character Rue is ALWAYS on drugs which causes her mother, sister and friends grief as she goes from one bad decision to another. The show is extremely sexually explicit. It tends to favor showing penises. Additionally, one of the main characters is a transsexual.

My favorite part of the series is the journey inside the mind of Kat. There is much to explore in her mind. I enjoyed the mental trip on self-care this week.

ABBOTT ELEMENTARY

Abbott Elementary made my night. I love shows about a dysfunctional work place, such as The Office. It is great seeing “Chris” all grown up and assuming a new role as Gregory. The principle Ava is terrible, she is vein and disconnected from her role as a leader.

My favorite episode thus far is Episode 2: Lightbulb. It highlights the relationship one of the teachers (Janine) has with her boyfriend. He is an aspiring rapper incapable of paying bills and is very immature. The show is generally funny and entertaining.

I am a huge fan of the series Sex In the City so I was obligated to watch And Just Like That. I enjoyed Charlotte more than any other character this time around. Her perfectionist ways are relatable to me.

As for Miranda and Carrie, I felt the script tried too hard for portions of thier story. Specifically for Miranda regarding race and Carrie with age. While I understand there has been ongoing public arguments about a myriad of topics and producers now feel a social responsibility to address them. I don’t like when I can feel the message being pushed on me. It needs to flow. The trifecta of gender, race and age was prevalent in this series. In my opinion they are trying a little too hard. And seriously, what is a show with no Samantha?

Thanks for Reading!!!

December Newsletter

WHAT IS YOUR CELEBRATION STYLE??

Kool and The Gang - Celebration was the theme song for my family and I from November to December. To be completely honest I prefer to spend the holidays in bed and somehow it never happens that way; with the exception of 2020.

This year my aunt celebrated her birthday on Nov 5th and hosted Thanksgiving. The last week of November I threw an intimate surprise party for my sister, who’s birthday falls in early December.

My aunt is known for her beautiful table settings. I am not much of a decorator. I focus on photo booths/photo collecting and food presentation.

AUNT ROXANNE’S BIRTHDAY

Auntie Roxxane

Left Auntie Roxxane, Right Ms. Rose

Aunt Roxanne's Table Setting

THANKSGIVING

MY SISTERS BIRTHDAY

FOOD NEWS

DINER

Remember last month when I wrote that you wouldn’t believe what I made with Tabitha Browns Hello Sunshine seasoning? Here it is, a 17 pound turkey! The feedback was, it was REALLY GOOD.This is how I made it. You can use the same method to make chicken.

1. Defrosted the turkey in the sink

2. Used rubber dish washing gloves up to my elbows

3. Removed package in the turkey cavity

4. Cut the turkey neck off

5. Rinsed the turkey thoroughly inside and out

6. Separated the skin from the turkey but didn’t remove it

7. Stabbed turkey breast, three slits on both sides ( so seasoning and butter can move through)

8. Gathered ingredients, Land o Lakes salted butter, Grace MILD jerk seasoning, Tabitha’s Hello Sunshine seasoning

9. Buttered the entire turkey placing some chunks of butter underneath the skin especially around the legs and breast

10. Lathered the entire turkey in mild jerk seasoning (underneath the skin)

11. Sprinkled sunshine seasoning on the outside of turkey and inside cavity

12. Added frozen vegetables to the cavity more sunshine seasoning, butter and garlic powder

13. Placed entire turkey in a large Reynold’s oven bag, tied a knot on top

14. Cooked at 350 degree’s from 8am to 3pm

15. Tested the internal temperature with a digital thermometer before serving

This gem of a pie crust is a game changer. Better than the crust I tried to make by hand last year and all the other store bought crust I have had in the past. It is sweet but not too sweet. When baked it has a slight crunch and melts in your mouth.

This vegan pie flew off the countertop. The comments, “It taste like regular pie.” Music to my ears. The goal is to make food that others enjoy without an odd aftertaste or texture confusion.

I find the trick to a good pie is no short cuts during the creation process. I bake the potatoes, I don’t boil them. I use organic white and light brown sugar 2 parts light brown to one part white. I always use an electric mixer for smooth texture. I also let the mixture sit and bind at least 45 minutes before placing it into the crust and back into the oven. I did this even back in the day when my pies were not vegan.

Takes forever. Always taste good.

LUNCH

I had to see what all the hoopla was about with Bentgo lunch boxes. My first question was why are they 30 dollars? The first lunchbox that I learned about was during the 2021 back to school layout at Target. It was the Kids Chill lunchbox made to keep food cold for long durations of time. I purchased it as a gift. When I decided to try one out for Issa they were sold out.

I browsed the official Bentgo website, they offer tons of fun designs beyond the basic, solid pink and red I saw in Target. Bj’s sells a few adult ones in lime green and purple online, I haven’t seen them in the store.

After five months of using a classic insulated lunch bag with no dividers, I grew tired of using zip loc bags. It was Kohl’s for the win! They had the Bentgo Fresh lunchbox in a neutral grey color, the sticker price was 26 with a 6 dollar of coupon. I decided not to get him the kid box because the suggested age limit for them is 7. The portions sections seemed too small for Issa’s needs.

Thus far, I have no complaints. It has really made lunch easier.

DESSERT

I am a bit confused by this sign that reads, “Made with No Gluten Containing Ingredients”, then at the bottom of the same sign reads, “Not gluten free due to shared preparation area”. Luckily, I am not gluten intolerant. Perhaps they should consider not sharing the prep area! My friend always says, “Reading is fundamental!”

I tried the chocolate caramel dessert bar. It was too rich to eat in one sitting. I did not dislike it but I also didn’t absolutely love it.

CANDY

Finally got a great picture of the Unreal offerings. An Unreal candy was originally introduced to me as a gift in October, I have already tried two flavors. In December, I tried their version of a Reeses.

The Unreal dark chocolate peanut butter cups taste great. Within the full-size bag, each peanut butter cup is individually wrapped, making it easy to pop in a lunch box or share with friends.

To learn more about this start up created by a teenage boy and his father click here.

How to Upgrade Your Gifting Presentation

Things to consider when gift giving,

1. The size of the objects. Sometimes I take the items with me to make sure they fit and packaging is sturdy enough.

2. Matching the prints of the boxes and bags. I love giving matching gifts to a family even if all the gifts are not for the same person.

3. Over do it - I once wrapped three boxes and placed the wrapped boxes inside a matching gift bag. No one does that. They chose one or the other, sometimes I do both. It also helps with people or kids that like to peak in gift bags. When they peak and see another wrapped box they can not believe it.

4. Purchasing cloth tissue paper. Cloth tissue paper builds excitement when opening the gift and feels noticeably different than regular tissue paper.

5. Ask a child's opinion - Kids don’t lie and have a great artistic eye. Their feedback can be useful.

6. Skip cheap cards for very special occasions - Milestones and 45 year anniversaries deserve signature cards, cough up the extra 6 dollars its worth it.

7. Shop the signature section - Hallmark signature cards and wrapping paper are chic. The selections tend to have blacks, golds, plain white, pearl and unique patterns. The cards have texture, 3D features or wood on them.

8. Collect eye catching bags when the shelves are stocked - Stores such as Target roll straight into the next calendar holiday marketing set up the day after a holiday has past. Shopping the first day items are displayed will give you the most options. I saw the Valentine's Day boxes out on Jan 1st. By February the section will be depleted with slim pickings.

9. Shop for birthdays in advance - Currently I have about three cards for birthdays that are over six months away. When the pressure is low it is easier to think straight. I also like matching cards to gifts. For example shoe cards, for shoe gifts.

10. Ask Hallmark for a box - I couldn’t find a bag or box big enough for a gift I purchased. I decided to ask the Hallmark manager would she be so kind and provide a box. She gave me a beautiful large white box. Better than anything I have seen in the stores.

11. Wrap heavy items on hard surfaces - My room is cozy and it is tempting to wrap gifts on my carpet but sometimes the weight of the gift punctures the paper on the corners. This doesn’t happen when I wrap gift on a hard surface.

THANK YOU FOR READING :)

November Newsletter

Food News

The following items have made the very good list:

Trader Joe’s, Very Green juice taste good. I have hard time with most juices because I do not like the taste of ginger or celery. I lean towards green drinks mixed with pineapple juice.

MUSH : Vanilla Bean is the first flavor I tried but the flavor I fell in love with was chocolate followed by strawberry. Everytime I go the store the flavor options expand.

AUNTIE TABS SEASONING: The originator of very good Monday’s has made some amazing seasoning. The result of her collaboration with McCormick is a blend named “Hello Sunshine” that usually sells out within 30 mins. Wait until I show you what I made with it in December’s Newsletter.

Spizzy’s is carryout in Maryland just over the Woodrow Wilson Bridge. I have been at home trying to recreate and duplicate this waffle ever since my visit to Spizzy’s. The lentil patties are AMAZING.

Waffles

Upper Marlboro Shake

Lentil Patty

Fare Well is owned by the same people who own Sticky Fingers. This means some of the desserts and my favorite “Challah bread” is available at both locations.

This was almond croissant was so big it was split amongst three people.

Almond Croissant

The smores waffle indulgent my son could only eat half. The waffle reheated well. It is more of a mega dessert verses a breakfast. It would not recommended it for lunch.

S’mores Waffle

OMG the winner of the food haul, these wings with Mambo sauce. THE FLAVOR. One of a kind.

Southern Fried Wings w/Mambo Sauce

Prior to discovering CHOA my son used to eat Amy’s Mac and cheese this is his new favorite. I also purchased the cheese slices. Placing some pieces in a black bean quesadilla really adds a nice touch.

Servino: Whole Food’s is where I found this vegan heat up macaroni. I added black garlic and sautéd mushrooms to it. I like that I has a bit of a crunch to it.

Vegan Mac and Cheese with black garlic and sautéed mushroom and Black Bean Quesadilla

Gardein can go ahead and cancel all the other flavors they have on the shelf. The size the flavor and the crisp of the Chipotle Lime fingers make it by far the best. Pairs well with Annie’s Spicy BBQ sauce.

Silver Hill’s plain bagels are so good. The texture when you toast it reminds me of NY bagels. I also tired the everything bagel. In the end I decided the plain bagel with everything cream cheese is the BEST combination.

Kite Hill is really showing off. The cream cheese is good, the ravioli especially the spinach is good, and the vanilla yogurt from this line is delicious.

Ozery Bakery Morning Rounds, Muesli. These muesli rounds are incredible they have tons of grains and dates in them. Makes the meal feel complete. I get compliments every time I serve them to a guest.

This candy was given to me as a part of a birthday gift. It is the vegan version of Mounds. I liked it so much I have been searching to see what else they carry. I am not sure where this candy was purchased. I was able to find the dark chocolate covered peanuts at the Natural Grocery Store in Woodbridge. Watch out M & M, the Unreal brand is coming for you.

UREAL chocolate covered peanuts

VEGAN GONE WRONG

A path to no energy and hair loss

There is a common misconception that vegans are healthy. Many vegans are first generation and are doing this for the first time. I imagine eating 6 potatoes a day can’t be the same as having oatmeal for breakfast, a stir fry for lunch, pasta and salad for dinner and an avocado for a late night snack. I convinced veganism can go wrong just like any other diet.

Millions of years ago there were dinosaurs, some ate meat and some ate plants, both were huge and functional. Something that I have experienced from some carnivores is a blatant concern and resistance to my lifestyle. Even my own therapist has mentioned several times that she believes some of my intolerance to stress is rooted in my diet. While there may be a connection to her hypothesis the biggest question for me is, “How do I eat better? Because “be like us undertone” can’t be the only solution.

Problem

My vicious cycle is going from eating greens and taking my vitamins for a week. Followed by a week of eating excessive bread, chocolate and missing breakfast. One week I am glowing, energized and positive and the other I’m pimple ridden, angry and tired. Per my therapists advice I turned to nutritionist Dr. Elliot for some guidance. I highly recommend everyone see a nutritionist to see what you can be doing better based on an experts opinion. Following an Instagram influencer, family member or nay sayer can take you away from your personal goals.

Solution

My solutions are customized to my nutrition levels. However, I would like to share what Dr Elliot recommended.

1. Don’t love food because it does not love you back. It is ok to like it a lot

2. Cook some food in and iron pan include - citrus, tomato and vinegar

3. Bad Fat: Mazzola, Canola, Soy (stay away)

4. Smart Fat: Olive, Avocado,Nuts, seeds, Coconut, Red Palm (increase)

5. Cook Pasta 3 min less than instructed, allow to cool for 24 hours, cook with coconut oil

6. Do not eat more than one cup of starch per meal

7. Take Vitamin D with good fats

8. Taking Iwi Vegan Fish Oil will supply needed Omega 3 and increase brain functionality

9. Protein Program: Legumes, Hemp Seeds, Grains specifically Quinoa, Amaranth and Teff

10. Chocolate - The Darkest is best 70-83 cocoa try the Cinderella Brand, buy expensive chocolate it reduces temptation

11. Bread - The best bread to consume are Sourdough, Sprout, Simple Flatbread

12. Skinny Fat (big belly on a slender frame) is caused by insufficient protein, stress/lack of sleep, not working ab muscles (primal movement is best)

    Chasing Balance In Fruit Consumption

The honest truth I eat grapes all the time, bananas very often and my son likes tangerines. It pretty much stops there. While I was in the doctors office I saw this chart

I have made a special point to include the fruits in the chart as well as fruits I haven’t tried before to my diet. I did a live feed on Instagram about my experience trying pomegranate and dragonfruit for the first time.

Candalada’s Banana Berry Smoothie

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October Newsletter

What are you scared of?

Halloween means many different things to different cultures around the world. Present-day in America, Oct 31st is a day to get dressed up either cute or scary and collect candy. While I do not identify with the holiday I took sometime this week to think about what I am really scared of. My top three fears:

1) Loosing my dad

The pain of loosing my mother was difficult to navigate. The reality that people can die no matter what their relationship is to you and how much you love them is uncomfortable. One of the biggest side effects of loosing my mom (besides the slight pain I feel when I breathe) is obsessing over my dads safety, health and life.

When I am with my dad, I treat each moment like the last. I take many pictures and videos. I make a greater effort to let him know how much I appreciate him. In my mind I am consciously documenting for the future, where as in the past it was more care free. While I appreciate the pictures I have of my mom, I miss seeing her movement and hearing her voice. I wish I had unlimited footage of her and I do not. I do not want to make the same mistake twice.

Just the quick thought of not having my dad puts me into tears. This is a very new angle of anxiety that I am working on conquering. In the mean time this is my greatest fear.

2) Issa’s Future

When it comes to Issa I have been told to take it easy and don’t worry more times than I can count. I always say that Issa has the biggest team of lawyers I have ever seen, his aunty and so many other people that love him. Let that baby watch some TV, let that baby have some candy etc. I give as much time as I can to his studies and eating habits because I am always thinking about the future Issa. 35 year old Issa. That is how old I was when I lost my mother.

Whatever you learn whether its responsibility, financial skills or music. It is all you have to work with when its time to be a real grown up and take care of yourself. My mom would always say, “I am not going to be here forever”. I would think to myself she was being so dramatic about wanting me to wash a dish. She was not.

I think about stuff like leaving enough money for him to have his own home to live in or pay for his education. Luckily, instead of just being scared, I have developed systems I didn’t have before. I’m looking forward to creating investment accounts for him this year.

In the meantime, I am grateful he has an official God Father and God Mother both in positions to care for him even if he had nothing but the shirt on his back.

3) Not fulfilling my dreams in my lifetime

Nubian

I woke up one day in 2009 to being tagged on Instagram by @graffoflarge. The caption read “Nubian”. The artist was in London. He liked a photo I posted (taken by John Pavilones) and was inspired to draw it. I was so surprised. It would be things like this that made me feel I was on the right path.

During this time my life, the inside of my brain looked like the interface on Ralph Breaks the Internet:Wreck It Ralph 2. I could see the map of where I was heading. Multiple plans ran at once. Most real-life moments felt like deja vu because I saw it already in the interface.

Since 2018, much has changed. I don’t see that complex interface anymore and my priorities have changed. I wonder where it went and if it will ever come back. Lastly, “How do I adjust to this archaic system of brainstorming to create goals then write them down verses having them vividly pre-dowloaded into my mind?”.

These years, I occasionally have dreams. The things that I see myself doing in those dreams are so far away from where I am currently. With no interface or road map I wonder is it just a dream or am I actually on my way there?

This past August the 31st to be exact. I woke up to a tag from @Coarista an artist I do not know personally. He found the once heavily circulated image of me from 2016 (taken by Kevin Marable) on an IG page founded in Paris called @TurbanistaParis and drew it. Coincidence or a little reminder that I am still on the right path?

Dark Turban

September Newsletter

Self-Care September

I started Self-Care September for myself in 2019 for multiple reasons. It was the anniversary of my moms passing and I noticed how much I didn't care for myself in the past few years. To the point of actually loosing a tooth! If you have already read my book “Beautiful Reject” you are familiar with how comprehensive and time consuming a thorough self-care routine can be. Upon recent research, I discovered September is actually Self Care Awareness month founded in 2017.

I started my self-care process in August this year, in honor of the month I was born and my own existence. Although, self-care August doesn’t rhyme at all. It seemed appropriate to do a few cosmetic things in time for 8/28. I would like to share a new local gem that I found; Flawless Advanced Laser Skin Care.

Flawless Advanced Laser Skin Care is a well designed and intimate establishment, located just off of Old Bridge Road, in Woodbridge, Virginia. The owner is fashionable, knowledgeable and caring. She recently relocated from Tysons Corner.

Treatment Room

Originally, I used to visit Cultura Dermatology in DC. With the school year starting and the premium ticket for services at Cultura, I decided to look for local options. This is how I discovered Flawless.

The price point at Flawless allowed me to explore removal of several areas; my face, neck, abdomen, arm pit and brazilian areas. Flawless is booked a month out for good reason. The process was seamless and the results are immediate.

I received compliments all week on the glow of my skin. It was great not having to be in the mirror with tweezers every second. My arm pit is still smooth and it has been over a month since the service. The removal of the hair was helpful because after having surgery, I was nervous to shave the area and didn’t want the burden of doing it every few days. The Brazilian experience was a little painful but not worse than waxing. It is important to remember that lasers can not destroy grey hair. The main reason I am in a scurry to have whatever I can remove, removed.

ISSA visits Erykah Badu on Tour

Prince Issa went visit Erykah on the Badubatron Tour. It has been two years since Issa has been able to attend a live concert. He was very excited. Some of the things he said he enjoyed were the lighting sequences during the performance, watching Frank Moka play the drums up-close and feeling like a very special person.

The highlight of his night; the logo maracas that Erykah gifted him. They light up and make noise.

STYLIST

Recommendations

Summertime, having surgery and then an unexpected accident were my main motivations for searching for a stylist that can help me. Admittedly, I have friends and family that are underground also help sometimes. This is the list of public and available stylists that I have visited from June-August.

Yaella @ Basic Necessity

1208 Underwood St NW
Washington, DC 20012

301-825-2477 (c)

Yaella only does small braids on natural hair, no extensions, no blow outs. Other ladies in the shop specialize in blow outs and locs. They use many of the products I love. Everyone leave out of there looking sharp as a tac.This place is FAR. Feels like its in Silver Spring driving from Woodbridge.

Neftalie @ Yams Hair Braiding

8207 Georgia Ave
Silver Spring, Maryland 20910

240-810-3177

There is no direct way to contact Neftalie. All request run though the owner mainly via text. Looking around the shop it seemed many of the braiders were amazing. I like that Neftalie is willing to do such small braids.She only works on Saturday’s.

Monah @ Sensational Stylz

2717 Potomac Mills Circle
Woodbridge, Virginia 22192

443-723-6737

After a summer of fun an experimenting Monah blew my hair out. She was patient and kind. The only modification I would make to her process is requesting a small flat iron be used on the roots. Since I have no attachment to the length of my hair, I trusted former stylist, Patrice Young to cut it for me drastically when I got home from the shop.

Shortlist of other great stylist

Karen || IG @krinklekutzbyk

Capital Heights, MD - 240-381-8848

Karen has the fastest hands I have ever seen.

Monea || IG @msmarleymar

Bowie, MD - 240-507-8174

I’ve met Monea a few times. She is known for her work on Wale’s hair. Her loc extension and styling skills.

POWER BLEND OIL

I still can’t believe that my first hair product “Power Blend Oil” has gone from a concept to reality. Thank You to everyone that has purchased the product and other items from the Hair Therapy store.

Thank You for your feedback. It has allowed me to make customer requested updates. The product images have been updated to reflect the front, and sides of the bottle. The description has been updated to educate consumers on the purpose of each oil in the blend. A “other uses” section has also been added.

First Pop Up

I am attending my first Pop-Up as a vender October 9th @ 1 PM outside of My Mama’s Vegan in Baltimore! Can’t make it? Order the product online.

Sale

Power Blend Blow-dry and Nail Oil

Sale Price: $12.00 Original Price: $35.00

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