January 2023 Newsletter

successful completion of Finance 101 with Hair Therapy MeMBER Rufaro

You all may be familiar with the sandwich method. One negative wedged in between two positives. Starting with the positive. Hair Therapy rolled out its first offerings of courses on various topics to support women, Jan. 7th, Organization 101, Jan. 10th, Anger and Stress and Jan. 18th, Finance 101.

Finance 101 was very well received. The presentation covered statistics, a financial health check quiz and strategies for transitioning from surviving to thriving. The calls had the support of two accountants to share concepts and outlooks.

If you would like to review the sessions the raw videos are uploaded to www.hairtherapybycandalada.com/htu

The Organization 101, session 1 held on Sat. Jan. 7th, had one attendee and experienced severe technical difficulties. It also was not recorded so the valuable information shared is not readily available.

The Finance 101, session 2 held on Sat. Jan. 21st, did have attendance but lost all participants from the Wednesday night group. Thus, deeming Saturday not a good day for HT online learning; resulting in cancellations of subsequent planned Saturday sessions (ie Organization 101, Session 2).

Anger and Stress debuted Tuesday Jan. 10th, with one attendee and session 2 held Tuesday, Jan. 17th was my first, zoom doom with zero attendees.

LESSONS:

1. Attendees respond well to flyers (I tried bitmoji videos, no one cared)

2. Attendees needed multiple reminders. The morning of and 10-15 minutes prior.

3. Unless its actual college anything over one day a week is too much

4. When zoom is dry go live (an option I thought of an did not execute due to discouragement)

5. Cash rules everything around us (everything is connected emotions, organization etc ultimately people are more interested in cashflow)

6. Don’t assume you do not need to market because people know you or attended things in the past (only Beyonce gets away with that)

SOLUTIONS:

Organization 101: The content is being converted to a presentation format and will be uploaded by Wednesday. The course was originally designed as more of a consulting and sharing style which is most impactful however the presentation is the pivot. It is not too late to get an agenda and make most of 2023.

Anger and Stress in Black Women: Intro session was recorded and has been uploaded. The course has moved to Wednesday. Wednesday’s are HTU’s official day of instruction. Anger and Stress will run through February as we explore the history of anger and stress in Black women. Following the book Going Off by Faye Childs.

www.hairtherapybycandalada.com/htu

December 2022 Newsletter

Exploring ArubA with Prince Issa and NikkRich

This December I had the pleasure of visiting Aruba for the first time to celebrate my sisters birthday. What made this trip special is my sister’s paternal ties to Aruba. We were able to visit where her dad grew up and explore the less touristy side of the island. The highlight of the trip was our stay a The Boardwalk Boutique Hotel and the vegan spread made special for us by Chef Djurick.

Prince Issa at Baby Beach

After scribbling in my note pad for days. When I finally narrow everything down I create a digital itinerary in my notes app on my phone. This is a screen shot of my guide during the trip. I also add a screen shot of a map. It helps me remember the relation of the locations. During the planning stage I spend hours on google maps. It is the only thing that helps me prevent creating a plans that have me driving like a yoyo verses a person that actually vetted the sense of the route.

Hotels

We stayed at three hotels for various reasons. I was able to get the first room using my Marriott points. This helped me reserve the savings for the 2nd nights stay at a premium location fitted to my sisters personality. While I imagined the night of luxury would be amazing, I didn't find it fiscally responsible to stay there for more than one night. For the last day I chose a resort where I discovered the rate to be inflated on the weekends but quite a steal on the weekdays.

Marriott Courtyard Aruba

The Courtyard Marriott resides on a block full of mega hotels. It is a quaint two level hotel. We did not dine there. The room was okay. It wasn’t great or upsetting. There was a patio but the door to the patio was deadly. Extremely heavy and almost killed each of us at different times.

I enjoyed the pool the most. The look of it is inviting both day and night. I love jacuzzis. I dipped my toes in the jacuzzi while Issa played in the pool. I have no idea why he enjoys the cold water over the warm water.

View from the patio

BOARDWALK BOUTIQUE HOTEL

The Boardwalk was by far my favorite hotel stay to date. The pros are:

1. The pool has no open or close time.

2. Boardwalk beach guest receive waiter service from the Ritz Carlton.

3. There is a walk up smoothie shack on the property.

4. The most impressive thing about Boardwalk is the atmosphere. There are coconut trees EVERYWHERE. It feels like you are in the jungle. The rooms are themed after little houses to make you feel like you live there and each room comes with a grill. It is truly a dream. The textures and color scheme refreshing.

5. The bathroom has a window that is easy to open and you can hear birds chirping while you take a shower.

The Cons:

1. The primary con is the hold they place on your card. There was a 500 dollar hold placed on my card. The room was already prepaid so I had a hard time wrapping my head around such an aggressive incidental hold. When I ordered breakfast they placed an additional hold for the cost of the food. I was rolling my eyes. I called as soon as checked out. The jig is up, release the hold!

2. Also the hotel is also not directly on the beach, however, there is a cute little shuttle, and a designated space of the beach for Boardwalk guest. Servers on scooters come to take your order.

3. I have recently learned they are only accepting children over 12 going forward according to the website. Issa is 10, I knew nothing about this when booking.

4. There seems to a cat that lurks and runs up to the door meowing non-stop

For breakfast I had the “Scrambled Breakfast” (tofu option) and Nikky had the Açaí Bowl. I scrapped the plate. Sitting on the patio eating breakfast there was a memorable moment.

Eagle ARuba Resort & casino

I chose this space for the full kitchen, patio and enclosed bedroom. While it was as spacious a regular one bedroom apartment, I couldn’t adapt to everything being beige. Even the staff had on beige shirts. The pool closed early so we couldn't take a late night dip.

The one thing I did like was the life size checkers and chess games. We played that late night.

Overall it didn’t excite me and for that reason, I would not book this place again. I never went to visit the casino. It is located in a separate building so you don’t have to walk through it to get to other amenities.

food

Cubas Cooking

The tacos where ok, the cake vegan chocolate was a yummy surprise. They had a lot of non vegan options so maybe all the fun on the menu is located there.

Yemanja

Yemanja was a disaster. I tried making reservations from the US. I wanted it to be our last meal but realized they don’t open until 5:30pm by which time would be on the plane. I missed their correspondence because by the time they emailed I was already on my way to Aruba.

They had no availability for us as walk ups and even gave us a hard time when we asked about ordering carry out. The hostess told me the had to check with the kitchen to see if carry out was ok. We did eventually get carryout. I complained about the resistance to serve us and the manager gave us free drinks while we waited for the pre authorized carry-out.

Due to the pure anger of having dinner ruined on the first night, there are no pictures of the food. The food was very good but the presentation of it was affected by the one million individual containers. We ordered the vegan sampler.

If you plan to visit Yemanja, secure reservations. It is a popular spot. They also don’t really welcome kids. They only offer 1 hour when kids can dine-in 5:30pm—6:30pm.

Fishes & more

We enjoyed a guitarist playing live music on the patio. The and more in the tile means vegan options which was interesting to learn.

1. Vegan Calamari, no for me, yes for Issa.

2. Coconut Soup, I loved the soup.

3. Vegan Portobello was a yes for Nikky.

4. Tofu Tower was a hit for Issa.

5. Peanut Butter Brownie dessert was so good we ordered two.

One thing that made no sense was the bathroom. It doesn't match the ambiance of the restaurant. It reminded me of gas station bathrooms.

Solanio, Ritz Carlton

I was ready to order the exact breakfast that I found on a blog while planning the trip. It was clear my server wasn’t familiar with the items I was requesting. I asked another server what happened to Chef Djurick and his fabulous meals. He explained he is at another restaurant located near by and he would bring him to the table.

Chef Djurick told me that he has moved from Solanio and currently creating lunch meals at Moderna, another restaurant on the property. He and his wife were vegan and he made many creative things during his residency. He is no longer vegan but willing to whip up something for my sister and I based on the ingredients he has available.

Himself and three staff members brought out a lovely spread. The apple cinnamon pancakes were my favorite. I usually like one flavor on my pancakes at a time but the way he blended the syrups and other flavors was something only a professional could do.

My sister felt extra special. Bless the server that went the extra mile to make this happen and the Chef for being so kind and personable.

Happy Bowl

Located in the same shopping center as Cuba’s Cooking, Happy Bowl has a robust and overwhelming menu for first timers.

I had the Protein Explosion, Nikky had the Fresh Energy and Issa had oat banana pancakes. I liked my food but I was still hungry when I was finished. I tasted Issa’s pancakes, I thought they were horrible but he finished them. Nikky said she liked her bowl.

We packed this lunch for our time at Baby Beach. I would go again but order more food and skip the pancakes.

Ike’s Bistro

This was the best dinner of the trip. The restaurant is located inside of the Manchebo Hotel which wasn’t easy to find. A man was playing the saxophone when we arrived. Our table was by the pool which was lit in blue. This place screams date night.

The server was a bit too raw for me. As refined as the space was she lacked decorum. Nikky ordered truffle risotto, I ordered vegan fish, for dessert we had the warm apple crumble.

My dish came with yucca and mango salsa. The yucca was crisped perfectly, the fish took me back to a dinner I had in 2010 at Ruth’s Chris. This is a big statement but the chef at Ike’s mastered texture and flavor.

The Aruba Experience Cafe

This was our last meal. The breakfast spot I read great things about. The interior an exterior are full of exuberant colors. The seating areas feel private because the tables are not too close and not many are larger than a four top. The back patio feels like the coolest backyard at someones grandmother’s house. The walls have lots of art and murals that are conveniently tagged with IG handles.

The entrees are named as affirmations which I found to be beautiful, “I am Confident” “I am Beautiful” “I am Charming” to name a few. I tasted many things here, mocha pancakes, tamarind lemonade, arepas but things went south when I ordered the “I am Beauty” vegan option …… and received the regular one. I remained calm and still left a tip but I was pissed. I still ordered extra food to-go for the plane ride home.

P.S. I had a layover in Charlotte and I ate there too but that is a story for another day.

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New news for Jan 2023 coming soon!

November 2022 Newsletter

A Night At the Ritz Carlton

This past November I curated a surprise pj party for my aunty. I opted for the Tyson’s Corner Ritz Carlton because my aunt doesn’t care for driving in cities. Also this hotel offers self parking. Unfortunately, the self parking was very confusing and a few people were very confused (including myself) about how to enter the hotel once parked.

To pull off a truly personal experience I brought an induction cook top which allowed me to heat up the salmon and rice I cooked at home. This allowed us to avoid room service or having to go back out after coming in. We used chaffers to keep the jerk wings warm. The room was filled with the aroma of home cooked food, which in my opinion is even better than the smell of candles.

I told the hotel we were celebrating a birthday in advance. They sent up a complimentary bottle of champagne and dessert.

I packed all of the table settings in a large suite case making it easy to carry through the lobby and not look like was moving in. I brought a Life Time 4ft fold out table but I forgot the black table cloth and could not use it bare, not sexy. There was still enough space between the writing desk and living room table for a dessert display and food display.

The room is called “The Queen Executive Sweet”. It has two bathrooms. One for guest, located on the left as soon as you enter the room. I found this to be very convenient. The main bathroom hosts a traditional tub with shower and a completely separate shower. This way two people can shower at the same time.

Tip: If curating a hotel party be the first to check in with at least 1.5 hours alone. This gives you time to think and set things up with extra options and distraction. Also gives you sometime to put on your make up before everyone arrives.

Stick to simple color schemes. Mine was black and silver. I used elements of the room t o help tie the look together.

Guest Bathroom

Wakanda Forever

I had a Wakanda Forever Pre Movie Party. The purpose of this was for my friends to have a chance to get to know each other. Since the movies are quiet and dark and no place for small talk. The window for celebration was small, from 4:30 pm-6:30 pm and the movie started at 7. Upon reflection I pushed it a little close with a 6:30 pm end time.

The party was like a kid party but for adults. Lots of decorations (the kid part) and lots of real food and drinks (the adult part). We had vegan spaghetti , baked wings, salmon, rice. I was excited to get reviews on the spirits I’ve been collecting on travel.

We went to the Dolby Theater at AMC. After tons of research I decided that seeing and hearing the movie in the format it was created for made the most sense. 17 of us had the best seats in the house, the first elevated row behind the handicapped seating. The movie was long and emotional. The most exciting fact that I learned is the new Black Panther is Guyanese.

October 2022 Newsletter

ICE ICE BABY: EXPLORING ICELAND WITH PRINCE ISSA

THE SUMMARY

We arrived at Reykjavík–Keflavík Airport at 6:30 am, by 8:30 am we were at the Blue Lagoon. The following are the immediate lessons I learned about this attraction.

Lesson 1-6:

1. Boys over 8 can’t go in the women locker room and will be split up from their moms.

2. Get the package with robe. It is not worth the savings to be cold in the locker room after the shower. They only distribute the towels at the end of the visit.

3. Bring travel size shampoo, conditioner and multiple styling aids. The shower in the locker room has water that comes down from the top making almost impossible to not wet your hair thus ruining your hairstyle and make up before getting into the lagoon to take a money shot selfie.

4. If you wear wigs or weaves they will get ruined in the water and turn rock hard especially if you receive an in water massage or accidentally get the ends wet. Anticipating this I brought a throw away wig (a new but cheap wig that I discarded after leaving the pool).

5. You must decide if you want to true spa experience or a Sports Illustrated photo because you can not have both. If you manage to not get your make up blasted off in the shower you may have wished you washed it off when they distribute the mud masks. To get the full affect of the skin care products it is best to have a clean and clear face. Both men and women seems to enjoy the mask ritual.

6. Bring your own extra moisturizing lotion and travel size make up. You will look ashy and washed out if you use the provided lotion. A mini MUA kit can be helpful in accomplishing the look you want for the rest of the day and other excursions.

After visiting the Blue Lagoon we reset at our first hotel. I rewashed both of our heads with products for afro hair to prevent damage. First thing in the morning we followed Ring Road southeast towards Vik. After spending a few hours in Vik for lunch it was tempting to hang out until check in, however, I continued driving further southeast to the Jökulsárlón Glacier Lagoon. We caught the best view just before sunset.

Following the Jökulsárlón excursion we returned back to Vik for much needed rest at hotel number 2. We had no luck seeing the Northern Lights on the 2.5 hour drive back from the glacier lagoon or overnight. Instead we were greeted with hail and Icelandic Wind during the drive and cloud overnight. The wind was so aggressive it moved our bodies as we walked.

Day three we visited the Black Sand Beach before leaving Vik then we followed Ring Road back towards the capital. We stopped to see two waterfalls coming from south heading north the first was Skogafoss you can walk right up to it. 30 min away is Seljalandsfoss which you can walk underneath. Although I was all geared up in a water proof jacket, pants and rain boots my face got soaked and I was a bit uncomfortable when we stopped for food and on the ride back to Reyavik. My clothes felt heavy and damp. It may have been best to change into dry clothes and another jacket in the car after visiting fall #2.

We reached Reyavik at 7:30pm not leaving time for much. We managed to make it to the Perlan Dome. Since they closed at 9:30pm the girl didn’t charge us full price. Issa was able to see the man made ice cave which he loved. The Northern Lights exhibit was closed which really annoyed us. We didn’t see the real or fake lights Northern Lights.

Our last night of rest was the best, we had an afternoon flight and no pending plans. We used every minute until the 11am check out. In the lobby Issa practiced for a while as I filled up our water bottles. We loaded up our luggage for the last time. On the way out we visited a grocery store and a smoothy shop.

Due to unexpected exhaustion we didn’t get to visit the old light house in Garoskagi. I also didn’t take him to the LAVA show. It was not on my itinerary we kind of stumbled into it and the timing didn't work out. If we ever head back to Iceland it will be to check out those two things and see what the northern side of the country has to offer.

Lastly, driving in Iceland was liberating renting a car is an absolute must in my opinion. Trying to figure out how to fill my tank was a bit frustrating.There is an eye catching gas station that glows pink at night named Orkan. It rejected my card on every attempt.

At the N1 station I was able to buy a gift card an use it at the pump. She explained some locations are stores that have pumps and can only issue gift cards while others are full blown gas stations with more payment flexibility. At the N1 near the airport the attendant let me fill up and then pay directly with my debit card after. After all I went through I was so grateful.

PICTURE STORY

Vikurfjara Black Sand Beach

The food

BLUE LAGOON’s LAVA RESTAURANT (GRINDAVIK)

The couple next to us paid our bill. They never spoke to us and left before we finished. The women kept smiling at Issa. I suspect she found joy in overhearing some of his questions.

THE SOUP COMPANY (VIK)

The soup here was too much to finish. You can get a refill and try another type of soup if you choose to dine in. This is where we came across the unexpected LAVA Show. Unfortunately, we just didn’t have time consider the attraction.

Indian summer Vegan Soup / Comes with the best bread

HOTEL KRIA’s DRANGAR RESTAURANT (VIK)

We loved the decor and service. We were the last table seated for the evening but they did not rush us. The dessert was unique and tasted amazing.

OLVERK (Hveragerði)

Heard about Olverk on a blog. Went to try number 7 the vegan nacho pizza and it did not disappoint. I never knew I could like creamy, crunchy pizza.

ThE COo COo NEst (Reykjavík)

They made us a vegan pizza called the “Chef Surprise. It was loaded with vegetables which I usually hate but I enjoyed it. Even Issa ate all of his vegetables.

Valdis IcE CREAM

Open late and located right next to The Coo Coo Nest. We crushed our strawberry lemonade sorbet. Not one pic of it.

SMIDJAN BRUGGHUS, VIK

Known for burgers and beers. The vegan burger came with onion rings on top and was a refreshing change from pre-made burgers and black bean burgers. One of the walls is made of glass so you can see how their beer is made. Iceland did not miss all of our meals were good.

JoE & THE JUICE

They call the shake I had “Blue Magic” reading the ingredients I did know what to expect Avocado, Blue Spirulina, Cashew Coconut Drink, Date, Hemp Seed, Ice, Lemon, Prote. I sure wish I could recreate this flavor at home. Imagine how excited I was when I discovered they have several locations including a location in New York and 3 in Washington D.C. not sure why I never heard of them.

Found the biggest all vegan grocery store in the world! Thats until Plant X decided to build a bigger vegan store in Canada recently. It was cool not having to worry about what I pick up. I bought spices. Iceland is known for its salt, I opted to get garlic written Icelandic because it is a spice I use often. Issa picked pancake mix and chocolate to bring home.

the hotels

Night 1: We stayed at Hotel 201. It doesn’t have much curb appeal. The room is extra basic and they have no converters for appliances. The best thing was the towel bar which I used to dry some wet garments.The breakfast was quite a spread and more cozy and inviting than anything else. Smells like toast and coffee in the hallways. There is a wall full of pictures of Iceland we enjoyed looking through in the lobby.

Night 2: Hotel Kria was our favorite. It is sexy. It doesn’t have a pool or spa. It has a game room with darts and pool tables. Blow dryer by Babyliss pro, conversion plugs upon request, ample storage for luggage and clothing, an onsite restaurant, a good view and comprehensive breakfast.

Night 3 : Reykjavík Natura This was the easiest to access from the airport and very comfortable. Art in the hallways, several lounge spaces and a full spa. I didn’t get a chance to visit the spa. I enjoyed the spacious proper sitting area in the room. The bathroom was oddly narrow but the lighting was amazing. Breakfast was 27 USD. The oatmeal was memorable.

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September Newsletter

WOMAN KING: THUNDEROUSLY cinematic

The title “The Woman King” is as compelling and complex as the film. The Hair Therapy tribe and company dominated row five for the Big Show viewing @ the Alamo Drafthouse in Woodbridge, Virginia this past September.

The movie description:

In the 1800s, a group of all-female warriors protects the African kingdom of Dahomey with skills and fierceness unlike anything the world has ever seen. Faced with a new threat, Gen. Nanisca trains the next generation of recruits to fight against a foreign enemy that's determined to destroy their way of life.

Review: Rating 5/5

The film was undeniably cinematic. The colors crisp. The shots well planned scenic. The casting with the exception of John Boyega was phenomenal. He looked promising but his accent in my opinion didn’t translate to a believable African accent. He didn’t emit the type of power or fear Daniel Kaluuya gives me when he raises his voice. Thuso Nokwanda Mbedu who played Nawi stole my heart.

I enjoyed watching this film because I felt seen and understood. It shows a woman’s ability to fight, plan, sacrifice and rejoice. While I am not a warrior I identify with the concept of going against the grain and the burden of being responsible for multiple peoples livelihood.

The film reminds us all women don’t solve problems in a mild mannered fashion and sometimes compliance is not enough to get the job done. Watching “The Woman King” with a group of amazing African American women really made it one of the most memorable movie experiences. If you missed it watch the trailer here.

The Matriarch of the Family Turns 90

My grandma Maraian Hopkinson was born in Guyana, South America September 23rd, 1932. She married my grandfather Lionel Hopkinson and moved to America when she was 45 in 1977. She was a midwife in Guyana and in order to continue that work in the US she worked as a home health aid and acquired a GED.

Eventually she became a pediatric nurse at North Shore hospital in Manhasset, NY. Grandma worked the over night shift. She left at 9pm every night and took several buses with a travel time of over an hour.

In 1987 she purchased a new contraction home in Brooklyn, New York. I was four years old and I remember the fence being installed and the trees being planted.

In 2007 she retired from North Shore hospital after 30 years of service and has since travelled to Africa and her home country. In 2010 she transferred ownership of her home to her son, Dale Hopkinson (my dad) and granddaughter (me).

Currently in 2022 Marian is 90 years old. She still lives at 1936 and enjoys listening to her great grandson,Issa Hopkinson, play the guitar when he visits.

circa 1967

Grandma and her best friend

Grandpa (Lionel Hopkinson)

Grandma working as a nurse in NorthShore Hospital

Grandmas first home 1987 : Grandma, Dad, Grandma, Aunt Eline

Grandma and Candalada 2001

Grandmas house passed down to Dad and Candalada 2022

Prince Issa and Great Grandma Marian Hopkinson 90th Birthday Celebration

Grandma, Candalada. Prince Issa

Grandma we thank you for your discipline and your example.

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August Newsletter

Candalada’s 39th Birthday Picture Story

May Newsletter

From the Brunch tour to the Carryout tour: WHATS HAPPENING IN PHILLY

After spending years in Hair Therapy missing all the BBQ’s and parties on the weekends, I wanted to explore the amazing restaurants DC and Northern VA area had to offer. I wanted to see my friends and clients faces verses the back of their heads. In 2017 I started the DCVA Brunch Tour.

The concept was similar to that of a bar crawl. I found about 5-6 brunch spots in the DC and Northern Virginia area. I picked one date per month from April to June and spread the word for my Facebook and IG friends to meet me there. The April brunch almost always got rained out and the June 3rd brunch had the most attendees because two of of my friends share a bday on that date and it was a great way to get together to have a fabulous time.

2017 was a blast, as was 2018, 2019 I struggled, it was just a year after loosing my mother and I couldn’t find the joy required to pull it off. 2020, boom Covid-19 arrived. I sat there staring at the flyer on my computer sad at the thought of cancelling. I called the restaurants to inquire about their status. One was closed all together due to lack of patrons and the other converted to carry out only. I accepted that brunch 2020 was not a possibility.

I had a light bulb moment in 2021 after becoming completely sick of being a full time chef, cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner for months on end I decided to do a carry out tour. The benefits included tasting really good food that I did not have to prepare. The down side was none of my friends were with me. It was a very personal experience. Just Issa and I.

For the first carry out tour we went to North Carolina in March 2021. Out of the seven places we visited one was dine in. Getting to 7 places in just three days on completely opposite sides of the state required a great deal of coordination. It was such an adventure.

When people see the pictures they say, “That looked fun, I want to go eat with you all next time.” I politely smile with no response. I know they would not be down for sleeping in the car waiting for a place to open. Leaving one spot and heading straight to another within the same hour. Due to time retrains and proximity sometimes I have to visit 3 places in one town because once I leave I won’t pass that area again. To add additional complexity I may be driving in a rural area for 5 hours before I get to a populated area that accommodates my dietary needs.

In May 2021, I went to my home city, Brooklyn. I acted like a complete tourist exploring the vegan options there. With only two days to spare I ate at 7 places. When I go back to visit stopping at Champs Diner is a must now.

July 2021, I went across the United States. Below is a flyer of some of my favorite spots in America. What made this tour special is I searched for both Vegan and non-vegan restaurants to accommodate my dad. GW Fins left quite an impression and had something for both of us.

This past March I was inspired by the traveling exhibit “The Journey to Freedom” of Harriet Tubman to visit Philly. Prior to this visit. I have only driven through Philly. I was very excited I had to opportunity to bring my cousin Jahnyah who is willing to go through the shenanigans required for a day trip carryout tour. On the way out we took a tour of the Magic Gardens and it was just as great as the name implies.

Each place had something good to offer but if I could only go to one place it would be 20th street Pizza. Wow just wow.

Cheezy Vegan has amazing wall art and good french toast. Batter and crumbs had a cannoli Nyah liked. Tattooed Mom, served unique atmosphere and both vegan and non vegan cheesesteak. It is always exciting to find gems with variety.

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April Newsletter

April The Month of The Prince

Remembering Prince on the 6 Year Anniversary

Candalada, Prince Issa, Candalada’s Dad in Studio B at Paisley Park

Last year July 2021, I took a trip across the country with my dad and my son. I had a grand plan of detouring to Paisley Park as a surprise since they are both Prince fans. Tour tickets were available online for months as well as the day before we arrived to Minnesota. When we finally arrived to our hotel, I went online to purchase the tickets and they were gone!

I got up early in the morning and headed to Paisley Park to explain the situation and see if I could buy tickets on-site. The guard told me to come back around 11am. I arrived at 11am very nervous with my dad and son. A manager came out to see us, I explained my dilemma to him in hopes to get on a tour and he told me “I am unable to accommodate you. You all are welcome to look in our gift shop and hang out in the lounge”. I was so disappointed. I bought some souvenirs, Issa and I took selfies outfront by the Prince symbol but. I could not shake the feeling of dropping the ball. The security guard assured us that Prince would have never turned a child away but it didn’t help.

Once I left, I was stuck between I’m never going back again and I have to know what I missed. This February I decided it was time for a do over. We are all going back and making a day of it. Issa turned 10 in April and it would be a memorable gift.

We took the VIP tour. We had an amazing host, unfortunately it was his last day. In the beginning we were checked by security and my phone was locked in a bag with some type of sensor on top. They checked my Sony camara into a locker and gave me a ticket. I was also informed if I wanted a pic in studio B I had to buy a thumb drive for $10.

In the beginning of the tour I saw Prince’s office, letters from the White House and guitars. In the middle of the tour I saw an insane collection of his shoes, the actual bike from Purple Rain, notes from his note books, took a picture in Studio B and heard an unreleased song. Towards the end they told us we were able to take pictures in the big room Prince used to throw parties in. I was allowed to request my professional camera back and use it.

This tour is very inspiring even if you are not a fan of his music I recommend it because you learn the things that he stood for and the other contributions he made to the industry. He informed artist through his actions and interviews of how to navigate the business side of music industry. The exclusive footage played throughout the tour was my favorite part.

If you would like to coordinate your fits with your visit you can order your Prince gear online before visiting. Some of the items online are not in the Paisley Park on-site store.

Issa’s hat and shirt were only available online. Everywhere we went he received comments and positive responses. The TSA officer even allowed Issa to be fast tracked and go through a special entrance.

Prince Issa Turns 10!!!

This year. I made ten minute video recapping some of the most memorable moments over the past few years. It includes some of the places Issa has travelled and shows the beginning of his love for the guitar.

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March Newsletter

Women’s History Month

The title “Women’s History Month” implies that we should educate ourself about women that made remarkable impacts to life as we know it. While global and national history are important I think recognizing family history can be equally important.

In my family the first women to study photography abroad was my sister NikkRich. Since her graduation, she worked on passion projects as well as industry projects. Early in her career she curated her first show Counterpoint in DC, as a compliment to the release of her first book.

Last year NikkRich shot a campaign for Shea Moisture, which featured Miss Tina Knowles (Beyonce’s mother) and Neal Farniah (stylist to the stars).

Tina Knowles

Neal Farniah

On Nikky’s last visit home we had the opportunity visit the National Gallery of Art and see two installations. The first, The New Women Behind the Camera installation displaying work from a compilation of female photographers over an extended period of time. The second, a preview of James Van Der Zee’s “A Portait of Harlem” featuring photos of the late Marcus Garvey.

WOMEN OWNED BUSINESSES

Hair Therapy member Kay has her own company selling natural bracelets KayJewelMe. Kay donated 4 bracelets to the participants of RAE2022. Her natural bracelets have been worn by Malik Dope, Victorious Hall and Sean Boyce.

Natural bracelets have become popularized in recent years as the conversation about self-care and mental health get louder. Natural stones are thought to bring, peace, protection, focus and fertility amongst other things to those who wear it.

I have ordered a few for myself, and Prince Issa, Kay’s bracelets have become one of my favorite gifts to give.

Queen’s Vegan Cafe

Meet Queen the owner of Queen’s Vegan Cafe in Salem, Virginia. I found her browsing on Happy Cow for best vegan food in Salem. I was devastated to see she was closed on Sunday’s so I gave her a call. To my surprise she was holding a pop-up this past Sunday and I was able to get my hands on her food.

I noticed Queen had on multiple natural bracelets in her website photos so I brought her a KayJewelMe bracelet to encourage her to stay focused during her entrepreneurship journey. The bracelet was presented by Prince Issa and she loved it.

Mushroom Swiss Burger

The burger was Issa’s favorite of the two entrees. He liked the seasoning of patties and the sauces. He said the sauce was pretty good.

Birillia Taco’s

I liked the taco’s more than burger. I have made tacos at home but they never tasted like this. I must admit I didn't eat it the right way, I did not dip my taco in the sauce and I did not add salsa to it but I still loved it.

My favorite new snack!!!!!!!!!!! Oreo Bars are so yummy I have requested for some to be shipped to me.

THANKS FOR READING :)

February Newsletter

A NIGHT TO BE REMEBERED: RAE2022

"Rappers and Entrepreneurs" RAE was a private documentary screening event that showcased male African American community leaders, entrepreneurs and musicians from the D.C. metropolitan area. 

The event featured a short documentary on the issues faced by the participants and revealed which strategies they used to overcome personal and professional obstacles. The purpose of the event is to empower both the storyteller and the audience.

Unfortunately, Chef Rob recently passed away and the film was dedicated to him.

Participants: Victorious Hall, Malik Dope, Sean Boyce Johnson, Chef Rob

For more pictures please visit the RAE webpage.

Prince Issa: On a mission to be self-sustained

This year Issa began selling cookies during the Valentine’s season to support his music lessons. Issa celebrated his 3rd year guitar anniversary on 11/15/21. On a mission to be self-sustained his initial goal was to sell $140 a month. The monthly cost of lessons. He exceeded that goal last month and continues to wake up early to fulfill orders.

After only 10 days in business Issa received big news. He has been invited to participate in the National Young Scholar Program at Wake Forest University for Summer 2022! This fiscal goal is much more than music lessons. With Wake-Forest in mind he has raised funds through donations and cookie sales. To learn more about how to order cookies or the Wake Forest program click here.

In honor of Black History month Issa and I hosted the, “ Issa and Mommy in Morning Show” a live feed on Facebook and Instagram. The format included a reading followed by a song.

Issa read from Vashti Harrisons, Little Legends: Exceptional Men in Black History and played a one familiar melody before or after each reading. The highlight of doing the show together was a repost from Tom Higgenson encouraging Issa to keep on playing.

Lastly, Issa participated in a school fundraiser. A penny drive for the Prince William County Pet Shelter. He was able to collect 1,800 pennies otherwise known as $18 for the drive that ended 2/17.

What is a leap year and why is it necessary?

Is it just me or does today feel like the 29th? I found myself saying, “What is the date?” all day. When I started seeing posts that read, “today is my birthday although it really falls on Feb the 29th”, it reminded me that I don’t have that extra day this year.

We may have learned about leap years in elementary school but do we remember all of the rules and exceptions? I headed to timeanddate.com for some clarity.

According to TimeandDate.com

“Leap years in the western calendar were first introduced over 2000 years ago by Roman general Julius Caesar. The Julian calendar, which was named after him, had only one rule: any year evenly divisible by four would be a leap year.

This formula produced too many leap years, causing the Julian calendar to drift apart from the tropical year at a rate of 1 day per 128 years. This was not corrected until the introduction of the Gregorian calendar more than 1500 years later, when a number of days were skipped to realign our calendar with the seasons.”

Thanks for reading !!!

January Newsletter

Prince Issa’s Cookie Shop is Taking Orders

Prince Issa’s Cookies were a hit this summer at his first pop-up selling out in under 30 minutes. Taking orders for pick up 2/4/22, 2/5/22, 2/11/22, 2/12/22, 2/13/22, 2/14/22 text or call 703-389-6098. Issa is raising money for music. He is a third year guitar student.

Celebrating Black Men 2/22/22

I am hosting RAE for the third time. This time we are celebrating on a Tuesday at the Alamo Drafthouse in Woodbridge. Featuring Malik Dope as seen on America’s Got Talent and Sean Boyce from ABC’s, For Life.

Tickets are 20 dollars at this time and must be purchased in advance. To purchases a ticket, donate or become a sponsor click here.

TV NEWS

I am a bit late to the show Euphoria. I watched Season 1 this past summer and recently caught up on this Seasons 2 episodes. This show is absolutely insane.

The main character Rue is ALWAYS on drugs which causes her mother, sister and friends grief as she goes from one bad decision to another. The show is extremely sexually explicit. It tends to favor showing penises. Additionally, one of the main characters is a transsexual.

My favorite part of the series is the journey inside the mind of Kat. There is much to explore in her mind. I enjoyed the mental trip on self-care this week.

ABBOTT ELEMENTARY

Abbott Elementary made my night. I love shows about a dysfunctional work place, such as The Office. It is great seeing “Chris” all grown up and assuming a new role as Gregory. The principle Ava is terrible, she is vein and disconnected from her role as a leader.

My favorite episode thus far is Episode 2: Lightbulb. It highlights the relationship one of the teachers (Janine) has with her boyfriend. He is an aspiring rapper incapable of paying bills and is very immature. The show is generally funny and entertaining.

I am a huge fan of the series Sex In the City so I was obligated to watch And Just Like That. I enjoyed Charlotte more than any other character this time around. Her perfectionist ways are relatable to me.

As for Miranda and Carrie, I felt the script tried too hard for portions of thier story. Specifically for Miranda regarding race and Carrie with age. While I understand there has been ongoing public arguments about a myriad of topics and producers now feel a social responsibility to address them. I don’t like when I can feel the message being pushed on me. It needs to flow. The trifecta of gender, race and age was prevalent in this series. In my opinion they are trying a little too hard. And seriously, what is a show with no Samantha?

Thanks for Reading!!!

December Newsletter

WHAT IS YOUR CELEBRATION STYLE??

Kool and The Gang - Celebration was the theme song for my family and I from November to December. To be completely honest I prefer to spend the holidays in bed and somehow it never happens that way; with the exception of 2020.

This year my aunt celebrated her birthday on Nov 5th and hosted Thanksgiving. The last week of November I threw an intimate surprise party for my sister, who’s birthday falls in early December.

My aunt is known for her beautiful table settings. I am not much of a decorator. I focus on photo booths/photo collecting and food presentation.

AUNT ROXANNE’S BIRTHDAY

Auntie Roxxane

Left Auntie Roxxane, Right Ms. Rose

Aunt Roxanne's Table Setting

THANKSGIVING

MY SISTERS BIRTHDAY

FOOD NEWS

DINER

Remember last month when I wrote that you wouldn’t believe what I made with Tabitha Browns Hello Sunshine seasoning? Here it is, a 17 pound turkey! The feedback was, it was REALLY GOOD.This is how I made it. You can use the same method to make chicken.

1. Defrosted the turkey in the sink

2. Used rubber dish washing gloves up to my elbows

3. Removed package in the turkey cavity

4. Cut the turkey neck off

5. Rinsed the turkey thoroughly inside and out

6. Separated the skin from the turkey but didn’t remove it

7. Stabbed turkey breast, three slits on both sides ( so seasoning and butter can move through)

8. Gathered ingredients, Land o Lakes salted butter, Grace MILD jerk seasoning, Tabitha’s Hello Sunshine seasoning

9. Buttered the entire turkey placing some chunks of butter underneath the skin especially around the legs and breast

10. Lathered the entire turkey in mild jerk seasoning (underneath the skin)

11. Sprinkled sunshine seasoning on the outside of turkey and inside cavity

12. Added frozen vegetables to the cavity more sunshine seasoning, butter and garlic powder

13. Placed entire turkey in a large Reynold’s oven bag, tied a knot on top

14. Cooked at 350 degree’s from 8am to 3pm

15. Tested the internal temperature with a digital thermometer before serving

This gem of a pie crust is a game changer. Better than the crust I tried to make by hand last year and all the other store bought crust I have had in the past. It is sweet but not too sweet. When baked it has a slight crunch and melts in your mouth.

This vegan pie flew off the countertop. The comments, “It taste like regular pie.” Music to my ears. The goal is to make food that others enjoy without an odd aftertaste or texture confusion.

I find the trick to a good pie is no short cuts during the creation process. I bake the potatoes, I don’t boil them. I use organic white and light brown sugar 2 parts light brown to one part white. I always use an electric mixer for smooth texture. I also let the mixture sit and bind at least 45 minutes before placing it into the crust and back into the oven. I did this even back in the day when my pies were not vegan.

Takes forever. Always taste good.

LUNCH

I had to see what all the hoopla was about with Bentgo lunch boxes. My first question was why are they 30 dollars? The first lunchbox that I learned about was during the 2021 back to school layout at Target. It was the Kids Chill lunchbox made to keep food cold for long durations of time. I purchased it as a gift. When I decided to try one out for Issa they were sold out.

I browsed the official Bentgo website, they offer tons of fun designs beyond the basic, solid pink and red I saw in Target. Bj’s sells a few adult ones in lime green and purple online, I haven’t seen them in the store.

After five months of using a classic insulated lunch bag with no dividers, I grew tired of using zip loc bags. It was Kohl’s for the win! They had the Bentgo Fresh lunchbox in a neutral grey color, the sticker price was 26 with a 6 dollar of coupon. I decided not to get him the kid box because the suggested age limit for them is 7. The portions sections seemed too small for Issa’s needs.

Thus far, I have no complaints. It has really made lunch easier.

DESSERT

I am a bit confused by this sign that reads, “Made with No Gluten Containing Ingredients”, then at the bottom of the same sign reads, “Not gluten free due to shared preparation area”. Luckily, I am not gluten intolerant. Perhaps they should consider not sharing the prep area! My friend always says, “Reading is fundamental!”

I tried the chocolate caramel dessert bar. It was too rich to eat in one sitting. I did not dislike it but I also didn’t absolutely love it.

CANDY

Finally got a great picture of the Unreal offerings. An Unreal candy was originally introduced to me as a gift in October, I have already tried two flavors. In December, I tried their version of a Reeses.

The Unreal dark chocolate peanut butter cups taste great. Within the full-size bag, each peanut butter cup is individually wrapped, making it easy to pop in a lunch box or share with friends.

To learn more about this start up created by a teenage boy and his father click here.

How to Upgrade Your Gifting Presentation

Things to consider when gift giving,

1. The size of the objects. Sometimes I take the items with me to make sure they fit and packaging is sturdy enough.

2. Matching the prints of the boxes and bags. I love giving matching gifts to a family even if all the gifts are not for the same person.

3. Over do it - I once wrapped three boxes and placed the wrapped boxes inside a matching gift bag. No one does that. They chose one or the other, sometimes I do both. It also helps with people or kids that like to peak in gift bags. When they peak and see another wrapped box they can not believe it.

4. Purchasing cloth tissue paper. Cloth tissue paper builds excitement when opening the gift and feels noticeably different than regular tissue paper.

5. Ask a child's opinion - Kids don’t lie and have a great artistic eye. Their feedback can be useful.

6. Skip cheap cards for very special occasions - Milestones and 45 year anniversaries deserve signature cards, cough up the extra 6 dollars its worth it.

7. Shop the signature section - Hallmark signature cards and wrapping paper are chic. The selections tend to have blacks, golds, plain white, pearl and unique patterns. The cards have texture, 3D features or wood on them.

8. Collect eye catching bags when the shelves are stocked - Stores such as Target roll straight into the next calendar holiday marketing set up the day after a holiday has past. Shopping the first day items are displayed will give you the most options. I saw the Valentine's Day boxes out on Jan 1st. By February the section will be depleted with slim pickings.

9. Shop for birthdays in advance - Currently I have about three cards for birthdays that are over six months away. When the pressure is low it is easier to think straight. I also like matching cards to gifts. For example shoe cards, for shoe gifts.

10. Ask Hallmark for a box - I couldn’t find a bag or box big enough for a gift I purchased. I decided to ask the Hallmark manager would she be so kind and provide a box. She gave me a beautiful large white box. Better than anything I have seen in the stores.

11. Wrap heavy items on hard surfaces - My room is cozy and it is tempting to wrap gifts on my carpet but sometimes the weight of the gift punctures the paper on the corners. This doesn’t happen when I wrap gift on a hard surface.

THANK YOU FOR READING :)

November Newsletter

Food News

The following items have made the very good list:

Trader Joe’s, Very Green juice taste good. I have hard time with most juices because I do not like the taste of ginger or celery. I lean towards green drinks mixed with pineapple juice.

MUSH : Vanilla Bean is the first flavor I tried but the flavor I fell in love with was chocolate followed by strawberry. Everytime I go the store the flavor options expand.

AUNTIE TABS SEASONING: The originator of very good Monday’s has made some amazing seasoning. The result of her collaboration with McCormick is a blend named “Hello Sunshine” that usually sells out within 30 mins. Wait until I show you what I made with it in December’s Newsletter.

Spizzy’s is carryout in Maryland just over the Woodrow Wilson Bridge. I have been at home trying to recreate and duplicate this waffle ever since my visit to Spizzy’s. The lentil patties are AMAZING.

Waffles

Upper Marlboro Shake

Lentil Patty

Fare Well is owned by the same people who own Sticky Fingers. This means some of the desserts and my favorite “Challah bread” is available at both locations.

This was almond croissant was so big it was split amongst three people.

Almond Croissant

The smores waffle indulgent my son could only eat half. The waffle reheated well. It is more of a mega dessert verses a breakfast. It would not recommended it for lunch.

S’mores Waffle

OMG the winner of the food haul, these wings with Mambo sauce. THE FLAVOR. One of a kind.

Southern Fried Wings w/Mambo Sauce

Prior to discovering CHOA my son used to eat Amy’s Mac and cheese this is his new favorite. I also purchased the cheese slices. Placing some pieces in a black bean quesadilla really adds a nice touch.

Servino: Whole Food’s is where I found this vegan heat up macaroni. I added black garlic and sautéd mushrooms to it. I like that I has a bit of a crunch to it.

Vegan Mac and Cheese with black garlic and sautéed mushroom and Black Bean Quesadilla

Gardein can go ahead and cancel all the other flavors they have on the shelf. The size the flavor and the crisp of the Chipotle Lime fingers make it by far the best. Pairs well with Annie’s Spicy BBQ sauce.

Silver Hill’s plain bagels are so good. The texture when you toast it reminds me of NY bagels. I also tired the everything bagel. In the end I decided the plain bagel with everything cream cheese is the BEST combination.

Kite Hill is really showing off. The cream cheese is good, the ravioli especially the spinach is good, and the vanilla yogurt from this line is delicious.

Ozery Bakery Morning Rounds, Muesli. These muesli rounds are incredible they have tons of grains and dates in them. Makes the meal feel complete. I get compliments every time I serve them to a guest.

This candy was given to me as a part of a birthday gift. It is the vegan version of Mounds. I liked it so much I have been searching to see what else they carry. I am not sure where this candy was purchased. I was able to find the dark chocolate covered peanuts at the Natural Grocery Store in Woodbridge. Watch out M & M, the Unreal brand is coming for you.

UREAL chocolate covered peanuts

VEGAN GONE WRONG

A path to no energy and hair loss

There is a common misconception that vegans are healthy. Many vegans are first generation and are doing this for the first time. I imagine eating 6 potatoes a day can’t be the same as having oatmeal for breakfast, a stir fry for lunch, pasta and salad for dinner and an avocado for a late night snack. I convinced veganism can go wrong just like any other diet.

Millions of years ago there were dinosaurs, some ate meat and some ate plants, both were huge and functional. Something that I have experienced from some carnivores is a blatant concern and resistance to my lifestyle. Even my own therapist has mentioned several times that she believes some of my intolerance to stress is rooted in my diet. While there may be a connection to her hypothesis the biggest question for me is, “How do I eat better? Because “be like us undertone” can’t be the only solution.

Problem

My vicious cycle is going from eating greens and taking my vitamins for a week. Followed by a week of eating excessive bread, chocolate and missing breakfast. One week I am glowing, energized and positive and the other I’m pimple ridden, angry and tired. Per my therapists advice I turned to nutritionist Dr. Elliot for some guidance. I highly recommend everyone see a nutritionist to see what you can be doing better based on an experts opinion. Following an Instagram influencer, family member or nay sayer can take you away from your personal goals.

Solution

My solutions are customized to my nutrition levels. However, I would like to share what Dr Elliot recommended.

1. Don’t love food because it does not love you back. It is ok to like it a lot

2. Cook some food in and iron pan include - citrus, tomato and vinegar

3. Bad Fat: Mazzola, Canola, Soy (stay away)

4. Smart Fat: Olive, Avocado,Nuts, seeds, Coconut, Red Palm (increase)

5. Cook Pasta 3 min less than instructed, allow to cool for 24 hours, cook with coconut oil

6. Do not eat more than one cup of starch per meal

7. Take Vitamin D with good fats

8. Taking Iwi Vegan Fish Oil will supply needed Omega 3 and increase brain functionality

9. Protein Program: Legumes, Hemp Seeds, Grains specifically Quinoa, Amaranth and Teff

10. Chocolate - The Darkest is best 70-83 cocoa try the Cinderella Brand, buy expensive chocolate it reduces temptation

11. Bread - The best bread to consume are Sourdough, Sprout, Simple Flatbread

12. Skinny Fat (big belly on a slender frame) is caused by insufficient protein, stress/lack of sleep, not working ab muscles (primal movement is best)

    Chasing Balance In Fruit Consumption

The honest truth I eat grapes all the time, bananas very often and my son likes tangerines. It pretty much stops there. While I was in the doctors office I saw this chart

I have made a special point to include the fruits in the chart as well as fruits I haven’t tried before to my diet. I did a live feed on Instagram about my experience trying pomegranate and dragonfruit for the first time.

Candalada’s Banana Berry Smoothie

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October Newsletter

What are you scared of?

Halloween means many different things to different cultures around the world. Present-day in America, Oct 31st is a day to get dressed up either cute or scary and collect candy. While I do not identify with the holiday I took sometime this week to think about what I am really scared of. My top three fears:

1) Loosing my dad

The pain of loosing my mother was difficult to navigate. The reality that people can die no matter what their relationship is to you and how much you love them is uncomfortable. One of the biggest side effects of loosing my mom (besides the slight pain I feel when I breathe) is obsessing over my dads safety, health and life.

When I am with my dad, I treat each moment like the last. I take many pictures and videos. I make a greater effort to let him know how much I appreciate him. In my mind I am consciously documenting for the future, where as in the past it was more care free. While I appreciate the pictures I have of my mom, I miss seeing her movement and hearing her voice. I wish I had unlimited footage of her and I do not. I do not want to make the same mistake twice.

Just the quick thought of not having my dad puts me into tears. This is a very new angle of anxiety that I am working on conquering. In the mean time this is my greatest fear.

2) Issa’s Future

When it comes to Issa I have been told to take it easy and don’t worry more times than I can count. I always say that Issa has the biggest team of lawyers I have ever seen, his aunty and so many other people that love him. Let that baby watch some TV, let that baby have some candy etc. I give as much time as I can to his studies and eating habits because I am always thinking about the future Issa. 35 year old Issa. That is how old I was when I lost my mother.

Whatever you learn whether its responsibility, financial skills or music. It is all you have to work with when its time to be a real grown up and take care of yourself. My mom would always say, “I am not going to be here forever”. I would think to myself she was being so dramatic about wanting me to wash a dish. She was not.

I think about stuff like leaving enough money for him to have his own home to live in or pay for his education. Luckily, instead of just being scared, I have developed systems I didn’t have before. I’m looking forward to creating investment accounts for him this year.

In the meantime, I am grateful he has an official God Father and God Mother both in positions to care for him even if he had nothing but the shirt on his back.

3) Not fulfilling my dreams in my lifetime

Nubian

I woke up one day in 2009 to being tagged on Instagram by @graffoflarge. The caption read “Nubian”. The artist was in London. He liked a photo I posted (taken by John Pavilones) and was inspired to draw it. I was so surprised. It would be things like this that made me feel I was on the right path.

During this time my life, the inside of my brain looked like the interface on Ralph Breaks the Internet:Wreck It Ralph 2. I could see the map of where I was heading. Multiple plans ran at once. Most real-life moments felt like deja vu because I saw it already in the interface.

Since 2018, much has changed. I don’t see that complex interface anymore and my priorities have changed. I wonder where it went and if it will ever come back. Lastly, “How do I adjust to this archaic system of brainstorming to create goals then write them down verses having them vividly pre-dowloaded into my mind?”.

These years, I occasionally have dreams. The things that I see myself doing in those dreams are so far away from where I am currently. With no interface or road map I wonder is it just a dream or am I actually on my way there?

This past August the 31st to be exact. I woke up to a tag from @Coarista an artist I do not know personally. He found the once heavily circulated image of me from 2016 (taken by Kevin Marable) on an IG page founded in Paris called @TurbanistaParis and drew it. Coincidence or a little reminder that I am still on the right path?

Dark Turban

September Newsletter

Self-Care September

I started Self-Care September for myself in 2019 for multiple reasons. It was the anniversary of my moms passing and I noticed how much I didn't care for myself in the past few years. To the point of actually loosing a tooth! If you have already read my book “Beautiful Reject” you are familiar with how comprehensive and time consuming a thorough self-care routine can be. Upon recent research, I discovered September is actually Self Care Awareness month founded in 2017.

I started my self-care process in August this year, in honor of the month I was born and my own existence. Although, self-care August doesn’t rhyme at all. It seemed appropriate to do a few cosmetic things in time for 8/28. I would like to share a new local gem that I found; Flawless Advanced Laser Skin Care.

Flawless Advanced Laser Skin Care is a well designed and intimate establishment, located just off of Old Bridge Road, in Woodbridge, Virginia. The owner is fashionable, knowledgeable and caring. She recently relocated from Tysons Corner.

Treatment Room

Originally, I used to visit Cultura Dermatology in DC. With the school year starting and the premium ticket for services at Cultura, I decided to look for local options. This is how I discovered Flawless.

The price point at Flawless allowed me to explore removal of several areas; my face, neck, abdomen, arm pit and brazilian areas. Flawless is booked a month out for good reason. The process was seamless and the results are immediate.

I received compliments all week on the glow of my skin. It was great not having to be in the mirror with tweezers every second. My arm pit is still smooth and it has been over a month since the service. The removal of the hair was helpful because after having surgery, I was nervous to shave the area and didn’t want the burden of doing it every few days. The Brazilian experience was a little painful but not worse than waxing. It is important to remember that lasers can not destroy grey hair. The main reason I am in a scurry to have whatever I can remove, removed.

ISSA visits Erykah Badu on Tour

Prince Issa went visit Erykah on the Badubatron Tour. It has been two years since Issa has been able to attend a live concert. He was very excited. Some of the things he said he enjoyed were the lighting sequences during the performance, watching Frank Moka play the drums up-close and feeling like a very special person.

The highlight of his night; the logo maracas that Erykah gifted him. They light up and make noise.

STYLIST

Recommendations

Summertime, having surgery and then an unexpected accident were my main motivations for searching for a stylist that can help me. Admittedly, I have friends and family that are underground also help sometimes. This is the list of public and available stylists that I have visited from June-August.

Yaella @ Basic Necessity

1208 Underwood St NW
Washington, DC 20012

301-825-2477 (c)

Yaella only does small braids on natural hair, no extensions, no blow outs. Other ladies in the shop specialize in blow outs and locs. They use many of the products I love. Everyone leave out of there looking sharp as a tac.This place is FAR. Feels like its in Silver Spring driving from Woodbridge.

Neftalie @ Yams Hair Braiding

8207 Georgia Ave
Silver Spring, Maryland 20910

240-810-3177

There is no direct way to contact Neftalie. All request run though the owner mainly via text. Looking around the shop it seemed many of the braiders were amazing. I like that Neftalie is willing to do such small braids.She only works on Saturday’s.

Monah @ Sensational Stylz

2717 Potomac Mills Circle
Woodbridge, Virginia 22192

443-723-6737

After a summer of fun an experimenting Monah blew my hair out. She was patient and kind. The only modification I would make to her process is requesting a small flat iron be used on the roots. Since I have no attachment to the length of my hair, I trusted former stylist, Patrice Young to cut it for me drastically when I got home from the shop.

Shortlist of other great stylist

Karen || IG @krinklekutzbyk

Capital Heights, MD - 240-381-8848

Karen has the fastest hands I have ever seen.

Monea || IG @msmarleymar

Bowie, MD - 240-507-8174

I’ve met Monea a few times. She is known for her work on Wale’s hair. Her loc extension and styling skills.

POWER BLEND OIL

I still can’t believe that my first hair product “Power Blend Oil” has gone from a concept to reality. Thank You to everyone that has purchased the product and other items from the Hair Therapy store.

Thank You for your feedback. It has allowed me to make customer requested updates. The product images have been updated to reflect the front, and sides of the bottle. The description has been updated to educate consumers on the purpose of each oil in the blend. A “other uses” section has also been added.

First Pop Up

I am attending my first Pop-Up as a vender October 9th @ 1 PM outside of My Mama’s Vegan in Baltimore! Can’t make it? Order the product online.

sale

Power Blend Blow-dry and Nail Oil

Sale Price:$12.00 Original Price:$35.00

Thanks for Reading :)

August Newsletter

Candalada’s Birthday

THANK YOU!

July Newsletter

I’m often asked what have you been doing? Do you still do hair? Since closing the store front in 2016 I was a professor of Business Communication, I worked in IT for the government and I wrote a book. A few clients turned family have been able to find me when they need me.

Unfortunately, I’m having surgery on my arm July 27th, 2021 and I must fully transitioning out of hairstyling. As always I will continue to support my Hair Therapy family sharing referrals and information that is valuable to our community in relation to hair and beyond.

Please support my transition to e-commerce by purchasing my first product “Power Blend Hair Oil” or any items from the Hair Therapy online store. www.HairTherapybycandalada.com

Candalada Visits 24 States!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lake Michigan Waterfront, Chicago.

This month I travelled/visited 24 states (Maryland, Delaware, New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Ohio, Michigan, Indiana, Illinois, Minnesota, Wisconsin, Wyoming, South Dakota, Utah, Nevada, California, Arizona, New Mexico, Texas, Louisiana, Mississippi, Alabama, Georgia, Tennessee, Virginia) . I ate a lot of food and saw many things. To write in detail would lead to a book as thick as Harry Potter.

To summarize: Prince Issa was excited to see Micheal Jackson’s outfits. He was surprised to see Jimi Hendrix guitar looks just like his replica. The scariest routes I drove at night were in Wyoming, no lights and countless deer. The most heartbreaking living conditions and dangerous environment I visited was Detroit, Michigan. Minnesota the home of Prince and George Floyd forced me to reflect and feel deeply for Black Men an the nation. The best landscape I saw was in Utah.

The coldest city a foggiest city was San Francisco. San Francisco has the biggest pride flag I have ever seen . The most relaxing feeling, early mornings listening to the Pacific Ocean on Bruce Beach in California. The best food I ever tasted was in New Orleans at GWFins. The Kimpton hotel there was also lovely. Many of the streets in the neighborhoods of New Orleans were flooded and cars were almost 1/4 submerged. To me the welcome to Virginia sign on the Tennessee border was worth a picture even if it is home because that particular sign is 5 hours away from Northern Virginia.

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June Newsletter

Are There Two Independence Days?

Juneteenth Outfit

Last year was the first year that I purposefully did nothing to celebrate or acknowledge July 4th. I celebrated Juneteenth by having a virtual discussion with community leaders.

This year is different than any other year in America because it is the first year that Juneteenth has been recognized as a national holiday.

Listening to the community I am hearing there are a few schools of thought.

1. Lets celebrate everything

2. Lets celebrate nothing because nothing has changed

3. Lets celebrate the Black one

Personally becoming more aware of history has taken the fun out of every holiday besides my birthday. I have gone with number 3. I still stand outside with Issa for a few minutes so he can see the neighbors fireworks.

For your reading pleasure I have linked 4 articles regarding the topic.

We can’t have two holidays

What Does It Mean To Celebrate Two Holidays

How are we supposed to celebrate July 4th after Juneteenth

Juneteenth and July 4th are complementary independence days that we should all celebrate

Prince Issa Goes To College!!!

Issa is not off to get his bachelors yet. He was invited on scholarship to attend Auburn University STEM Camp. The courses he is taking are, Protecting The Earth, Structures, Forces and Motion. He loves to build things using things around the house. He makes and destroys his creations so quickly sometimes I can’t even take a picture. The children have built bridges, wells and windmills thus far. They learning the scientific reasons for why things work.

I would like to thank Dr.Groff for recommending Issa. His Math tutor Mrs.Jackson and his teacher Ms.Bentley for pouring positivity into him. Issa finished out the year with straight A’s. I am so happy and proud of Issa.

Ms.Bentley and Prince Issa

Power Blend Oil Is Here!

Did you have a chance to try the Power Blend Oil? Looking forward to your feedback.

Thanks for Reading!!!

May Newsletter

Hair Therapy by Candalada Online Store!!!

I am proud to reveal the new Hair Therapy Online store which is centered around the culture of haircare and daily living. The summer 2021 collection is available on the Hair Therapy website, Instagram and Facebook. While browsing you may notice Hair Therapy has its own hair product.

Hair Therapy has launched its first hair product named Power Blend Hair Oil! Our Power Blend Hair Oil is a nutrient, intensive formula meant to address most hair concerns from soothing the scalp and healing scabs to nourishing follicles and protecting scalp from sun wind and smoke damage.

Available for pre-order starts shipping June 3rd, 2021.

Baby Halo for Hair Therapy!!!! Check out Halo’s debut on the Hair Therapy homepage.

THE BLACK HAIR EXPERIENCE

Described as the Black Girl Magic play ground “The Black Hair Experience” is an interactive selfie museum with several installations located at the National Harbor. My favorite was the kitchen and magazine corner exhibit.

The experience opened May 15th,2021. Tickets are also available for the Atlanta experience. I saw couples and girlfriends during my early am visit. It was a fun. The kids lounge although empty was spacious with games, jump ropes and ample seating.

Brooklyn, NY Vegan Carry Out Tour

With so much uncertainty as we navigate Covid-19 eating food in the car has brought me great joy. If you are in New York looking for great places to eat, I visited the top vegan restaurants in Brooklyn according to multiple bloggers. I added in two discoveries of my own, American Vegan Cafe and Natural Blend. Full video reviews are on my Instagram @Candalada under the highlight “Food Reviews”. Some fun summary videos are also located under the “Reels” and “IG-TV” sections. To visit the photo gallery for both the NY and NC CarryOut Tour here.

Stand Out Items:

@greedikitchen || website Jerk Burger, Banana Pudding, Chilli Cauliflower

@champsdiner || website Philly Sandwich and Girl Scout Shake 🔥

@modernlovebrooklyn || website Strawberry Basil Pop Tart, Caesar Salad

For Meat Eaters:

@toptiercatering || website Oxtail, Macaroni and Yams

April Newsletter

The NC Waterfall and CarryOut Tour

The inspiration for this trip was Prince Issa. He was approaching age 9 and about to celebrate his second birthday during the pandemic. Issa is 100% virtual; he attends school, the doctor and guitar lessons online. His melt downs were increasing which reminded me of the side affects of solitary confinement I learned about.

Since Issa and I have seen all of Virginia’s notable waterfalls including the best voted Falling Spring Falls, I started shopping for waterfalls in neighboring states. I looked into West Virginia (Blackwater Falls) which is unfortunately closed for park renovation, MD (Muddy Creek Falls) and Tennessee (Ruby Falls) on my search for cool falls in the past.

North Carolina recently peaked my interest because it is home to over over 250 waterfalls and houses two amazing things. First, the only waterfall I came across that you can walk behind, Dry Falls in Highlands. Second, one of the best vegan restaurants in the country according to The Food Network, Plant in Asheville.

Learning lessons form the first waterfall tour in Virginia. I made sure to triple check the addresses. I was devastated to learn that Dry Falls was the furthest waterfall from my home. Basically falling out of North Carolina and a whopping 8 hours away if I drove there straight. I knew I wanted to see three falls minimum. I searched for drive by falls and falls with short hikes. I added Looking Glass, known for being very accessible and High Falls noted for its appearance in The Hunger Games.

With the waterfalls towards the end of North Carolina and Plant (vegan restaurant) hours away from the falls. I decided creating a loop so I don’t miss out on all NC had to offer made the most sense. It took hours of google maps to find points of interests, vegan carryouts and operation times. I used some backward math to calculate necessary departure times. I timed everything based on arriving at the opening time for each carry out and I was successfully the first customer for each carry out.

I was able to see every planned point of interest. In Dupont State Park, I switched out High Falls for Triple Falls. High Falls had a trail that led to the trail. Once we completed the first trail, we were greeted by two signs for High Falls Loop and we didn’t know which one to take. The map was at the front of the park and internet on the phone wasn’t working. Issa immediately said, “No, Mommy No”. Sometimes its okay to listen to the kids.

We also went to eat and recharge at Madisons in Old Edwards Inn before heading to Dry Falls. We were hungry and wet from getting rained on at Looking Glass and the camera battery died! Having lunch first gave us time to literally recharge while visiting the historic, posh and restored inn.

Asheville River Arts District had art on the walls so bold we had to pull over. Apparently, the BBQ spot there is so good former president Obama went to visit “12 Bones” twice. Click here to see the video. There was no quick way to leave Asheville, so we didn't. We explored and found an art shop where the owner was a Batman and Marvel enthusiast amongst other things.

In Asheville we also visited, The Biltmore Estate a tourist trap worth seeing. Getting to it is quite a production. It has a box office! It also has a trolley system. I had no interest in touring inside. I just needed my baby to see the biggest house in the U.S. He has an affinity for architecture.

My sole purpose for stopping in Greensboro was to show Issa the International Civil Rights Museum. It was informative and great to see the original stools where Greensboro Four pushed back on segregation and the 1960 sit-ins began. It was a chilling to see an actual colored fountain.

The Best Buy in Greensboro scored us more than the tripod I forgot at home. We received local intel about Gateway Gardens, a cool garden/oasis created for kids. I delayed departing Greensboro to make sure Issa was able to visit. We were both a little sad when our adventure over. The trip was a joy and Gateway Gardens was a great ending. We left during the golden hour.

Please enjoy this recap video which was my visual birthday gift to Issa and the official “NC Waterfall and Carryout Tour” picture story (sequential order).

THE ViDEO

THE PICTURE STORY

THE DEETS

Waterfall Review

Triple Falls trail felt like it was for professionals. The walk way is wide and open but to get the close to the falls you have to earn it. I read there is a away to access rocks in the middle of the stream at Triple Falls. We were cautious and uncertain of its location so we decided to stop at the .5 mile overlook and not to explore further to find them. We may have missed out on the full experience.

Looking Glass is like the warm up to Dry Falls. Truly a baby version. It was easy to see from the roadside and not difficult to access the base of it. Dry Falls was my best waterfall experience to date. Its so powerful. No confusing trails just a long set of steps leading straight to the natural wonder. The water is so loud. When I was standing underneath it I somehow couldn’t believe it. What a refreshing perspective.

Detailed Carryout Review

Click here.

Prince ISSA TURNS 9!!!!!!

We chose to stay local for the big day. The Craving’s vegan cup cake was average. The space and the aroma was more amazing than the cup cake. Issa loved the textured wall.

Local food news

I have been following the development of Epiq Food Hall since the closing of its neighbor, Habitat for Humanity Restore. Originally, when I visited the Epiq Food Hall website the vendors where not populated and there was no hint about what type of food to expect. I saw two ladies with Gucci belts taking a tour of the Habitat for Humanity Restore space in October 2020 and that was my first indication that something other than the hall or expansion of the hall was on the way.

Epiq Food Hall celebrated its grand opening April 1st, 2021. The decor is swanky. It has an edge on other food halls I’ve travelled to in Baltimore and Manhattan. I was delighted to have the opportunity to listen to Joseph Brotherton, Collin Chambers and Tyler Leak play live jazz music on April 17th from 6:30-7:30pm.

Piano: Collin Chambers, Drums: Tyler Leak, Trumpet: Joe Brotherton

According to a recent article the reason for choosing Woodbridge as the location for Epiq Food Hall was to appeal to Northern Virginia residents who do not want to travel to the city for atmosphere, music and diversity in food options. Phase two the project will be in the old Habitat for Humanity Restore space. It will host ax throwing, corn hole, and giant Jenga.

I tried tacos from two places:

Teddy’s Taco Shack

The Raw Chopped Cauliflower taco was very spicy. I couldn’t taste anything but heat. The Red Hook, a cooked taco made of mushrooms, brussel sprouts tossed in szechuan sauce, corn salsa, micro cilantro, green onions had a texture I didn’t like and a burnt flavor, although, the food wasn’t burnt. I didn’t like either of these tacos.

Harmony’s Pho and Grill

The Hawaiian Taco made with fresh pineapple, onion, carrot, tomato, cucumber and crispy tofu. I ordered it without the lime sauce which is mayo based. I enjoyed it. I haven’t had this combination of flavors before and I love pineapples.

Thank You for Reading :)